Dating rules that are complete and utter crap

Relationships

Mar 27, 2014

Don’t call until three days after you get their number
Leaving it the three days is a ridiculous rule. Leave it a week, leave it an hour, do what you want. If they like you, a stupid 72-hour rule isn’t going to change anything. Don’t be a sheep.

The man must always pay
In the words of Cosmo: “When the bill comes, wait for him to make a move for it. When he does, reach for your purse/wallet and continue the payment process until he says “I’ve got it” (and then say “thanks” and drop it). If he doesn’t say it, you’ll have to split it. But don’t say, “Can we split this?” or “I’d really like to split this” because he may think you actually mean it.”
Why is it that even though society says men and women as equal, dating hasn’t moved on from prehistoric times?

Only date people with good jobs
If you’re a slacker and are just looking for someone good to have on your arm, how shallow can you be? How about making sure you have a good education and are in a position to look after yourself from your own job?

Eat lightly on a first date
Make a pig of yourself, order the steak! What’s the point in being careful and eating a grain of rice at a time if you’re just going to turn around six months into a potential relationship with this person and get crumbs in the bed while eating toast?

It’s a conversation not an interview
If we’re to be honest, it’s an interview. You will go through the motions of every interview you’ve ever been through -nerves, sweaty palms, resorting to pre-planned answers when you get confused, telling them you’re a team player and giving examples of times when you were able to motivate those around you.

Wait to have sex
Again, so what if you have sex on the first night? We’re all self respecting adults (I hope) and if we mutually choose to have sex on the first date then so be it.

Basically every pre-conceived notion that society has for first dates leads us all to become this person who is nowhere near who we actually are. Be yourself – if they like you for you then maybe you’ll see them again, if not then who cares? It was never going to work.