Friends With Benefits: expectation vs reality

There's a lot of pros and cons to having a friend with benefits – it works for some, doesn't work for most. Here are the expectations of having a friend with reality….and what you actually get. 

1. No Strings Attached

The Expectation

Sex all the time whenever you feel like it.

 

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The Reality

Hook ups occur randomly, usually after a drunken night out, nothing is ever clearly defined.

2. “We’re just friends”

The Expectation

This is a simple thing that doesn’t need to be defined *Shrugs*

The Reality

Having to constantly define your ‘friendship’ to all your friends. (the ones you don’t have sex with..)

 

3. ”I’m totally in control of this arrangement”

The Expectation

I can stay emotionally unattached to this person

The Reality

I am not a robot and am in danger of falling for this person. Crap. 

4. User or the one being used?

The Expectation

I’m happy with this arrangement where I sleep with this person whenever I like.

The Reality

I'm getting a little jealous and I can't stop it. 

 

4. Comfortable or too comfortable?

Expectation

It’s nice to feel totally at home with someone.

The Reality

This person just farted in front of me. This is not okay.

5. The fine line between being a friend with benefits and a booty call

Expectation

This is a balanced, equal arrangement.

Reality

They only ever call you late at night and when you try to arrange it they are always busy . “Holy crap, I’m a booty call”

6. How healthy is it to be a FWB?

The Expectation

I like this situation but have no idea how long it will continue for..

The Reality

Is this actually stopping me from moving to a better place in my life?

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