‘Orgasms are in your mind’: What to know about chasing the big O

It's a widely known fact that women don't orgasm as often as men through intercourse alone.

And as a result of this, we're often described as complex creatures, when the simple fact is we need more than a few short, swift thrusts in order to climax. It's not exactly rocket science.

And, according to Jannette Davies who recently featured in Channel 4 documentary The Super Orgasm, no matter how eager and dedicated your partner is to you and your needs, if you can't bring yourself to orgasm, it's unlikely your partner will be able to.

Speaking to Marie Claire, Janette, who owns a sexual positivity company called Scarlet Ladies, insists that masturbation and communication is the key to ensuring an orgasm.

"My one piece of advice for women is to get to know your body," she advised when reflecting on the obstacles faced by many women in the bedroom.

"The most important thing is learning what works for you. I understood my body because I masturbated – and that is hands down the reason why I can have multiple orgasms."

We're constantly advised to be open with our partners, but when we don't know how to achieve orgasms by ourselves, this can surely only result in a 'blind leading the blind' exchange.

"Communication is important, but you can’t communicate what you want from a partner if you don’t know yourself," Jannette reminds the public.

For many women, orgasms are as much a mental and emotional process as a physical one, so it's vital you're open to the various processes that go into achieving one.

"I think when you are in denial of any sort or have something that you are holding back it makes it 10 times harder – we all know orgasms are in your mind."

Sounds like it's time to get reacquainted with ourselves…