THIS question is the most important thing to ask your partner

Oct 11, 2015

Following research, it seems that there is one very important thing we should ask our partners on a weekly basis.

According to Dr James Cordova, director of the Center for Couples and Family Research at Clark University, checking in with your partner on a regular basis must be a priority.

Simply asking if they're okay or how their day was can make a huge difference to how they feel.

Drs. Kathlyn and Gay Hendricks, a married couple, who both work as scientists have come up with a very specific question in order to get the most out of your relationship.

They believe that asking, "How are we doing working together as a partnership?" is very important.

This helps couples see how they're "working together as a team for their children, working together toward financial goals, or being together so they both have a great sexual experience".

Dr Cordova acknowledges that asking a partner how they feel will stop any barriers coming down on communication and help solve problems before there even is any.

This couple talked about their jealousy issues and it was BRUTAL

Oct 2, 2015

by Amber Saunders

Not too long ago, The And project released a video that featured a couple getting brutally honest with each other about their break up.

It was emotional and we have only just finished drying our tears to be honest.

Well, now another real-life couple have taken the plunge and sat down for a conversation where they talked openly about their exes, jealousy and sexuality.

Lynette and Corey are engaged and have been together for four years. When they were asked to sit down and talk to each other about a range of topics while being entirely honest with each other.

It started with some laughs and was quite light-hearted when Lynette confirmed that yes- Corey was “obviously” the best sex she’s ever had:

“You’ve removed me from the dark side and I saw the light!”

However, then things got serious, very, very quickly.

Lynette is a practicing Christian and struggles with the thought of Corey becoming a “sex symbol” in the music industry.

That was tough enough to watch as it was, but then they started talking about their exes.It was brutal.

Corey was curious as to whether Lynette had ever been with another girl when they were in the middle for their ‘on-off’ phase. He wasn’t thrilled about her answer.

This hit us right in the feels.

One survey completely busted a BIG myth about women and sex

Sep 16, 2015

by Amber Saunders

One urban legend has been debunked with regards to our activity in the bedroom.

While it has been long believed that men are the ones who just can’t wait to get it on, Kindara a fertility app asked their female users how they really felt about sex and came up with some interesting findings.

As it turns out, women want sex just as much as their partners- or even more.

After surveying 500 of their female users about their opinions on the female libido it was found that 75 per cent said they want to have sex with their partners more than three times a week.

Another 13 per cent said that they wanted to have sex more than six times a week. More than half of the women surveyed said that they were not entirely satisfied with the amount of sex they were currently having.

While 72 per cent of those surveyed said they orgasm every time they’re with their partner and “many” do multiple times, just over half said an emotional connection was key to “good” sex. 23 percent cited foreplay as being more important.

The biggest obstacle when it comes to women fulfilling these desires: stress.

40 per cent of those surveyed cited stress as being the number one reason that aren't having as much sex as they would like.

However, 18 per cent of those surveyed revealed that absolutely nothing would get in their way if they wanted to have sex.

These exes got completely honest with each other and we all cried

Sep 2, 2015

by Amber Saunders

Two years ago Ali and Andrew broke up after being together for seven years.

A project called The And has reunited them to allow them to ask questions to which they wanted the most honest answers possible.

Things then got very real, and incredibly emotional very quickly.

Andrew insisted that he never slept with anyone else while he and Ali were together, but their question and answer session turned some painful insights for Ali.

She did admit that he wasn’t solely to blame for their problems, but that doesn’t make anything hurt any less, for either of them it seems.

While there were many tears shed (ours not included) they pair were able to share some happier memories. They both even admitted to wanting to get married at some point or another while they were together.

If you think you can handle more of the feels, then you can watch part two of their story here. Or if you’re a real sucker for punishment, you can see how more couple reacted in the same situation here.

Things get awkward as couples reveal their ‘number’…

Mar 13, 2015

by Amber Saunders

Can you imagine telling your current partner how many people you've slept with before them? Or vice versa?

It's a fairly awkward conversation and one many couples choose not to have. After all, the past is the past, right?

Elite Daily took some couples to find out just how your significant others' 'number' affects us.

The results are pretty hilarious, while some couples seem to already be aware, others decide ignorance is bliss.

Would you want to know how many people your other half has slept with and would you have a problem telling them your 'number'?

Eight of TV’s worst couples…EVER!

Relationships

Feb 26, 2015

by Amber Saunders

There are so many great TV lovestories out there that warm our heart and make us believe in true love. Then, there are these lot…

Destructive, annoying and just downright disastrous, here are eight of TV's worst couples:

Carrie and Big – Sex and the City
They may have ended up together but Big didn't have a patch on Aiden and treated Carrie so badly most of the time. Not that she was much better, mind.

Rachel and Joey – Friends
Friends rarely got it wrong but this may have been the worst storyline of all time…EVER!

Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian – Keeping Up with the Kardashians
Anybody could see they weren't meant to be but the lavish wedding went ahead anyway…only to result in Kim filing for divorce 72 days later.

Blair and Dan – Gossip Girl
Now these two were pretty good together, that we cannot deny – but Dan isn't Chuck. End of.

Barney and Robin – How I Met Your Mother
The married couple survived a few years before getting a divorce – because we all know where Robin's heart ultimately lies (albeit controversially!)

Piper and Alex – Orange Is The New Black
Piper and Alex are very complicated and destructive so far. Their relationship is based on lies and betrayal. However, who knows what will come next season…? Could it be true love?

Jamie and Cersei Lannister – Game Of Thrones
No need to explain this one…*shudder*

Nick and Jess – New Girl
We waited and waited and then it finally happened but it just wasn't…right.

Worried he’s not the right guy for you? Check out his hands!

Feb 19, 2015

by Amber Saunders

Sometimes, no matter how charming a guy is or how attractive we find a potential new suitor, something just doesn't feel right.

Next time you're left in two minds about a new man after that first date, it might be worth checking out the shape of his hands!

New research has shown that men who are polite, respectful and considerate to women generally have longer ring fingers and shorter index fingers. As for men with shorter ring fingers or ones the same length as their index finger, they're often more stubborn, hot-tempered and rude.

The ratio of a man's index finger length divided by his ring finger length (digit ratio) is apparently strongly affected by how much testosterone he has been exposed to in the womb – which can in turn impact on how men treat women in later life.

As part of the study undertaken by scientists at the McGill University in Canada, participants filled out forms for every social interaction that lasted five minutes or more over a period of 20 days, and noted their behaviour during each interaction.

"When with women, men with smaller ratios [i.e. more distance between their ring finger and index finger] were more likely to listen attentively, smile and laugh, compromise, or compliment the other person," said Professor Debbie Moskowitz, the study's lead researcher.

Overall, the study showed that men with longer ring fingers and shorter index fingers had "more harmonious relationships with women."

So… next time you're unsure about a new man – take a look at those fingers!

10 signs THAT person is definitely a keeper

Relationships

Jan 19, 2015

by Amber Saunders

What makes a person the perfect boyfriend or girlfriend? We all know this goes far beyond looks and when we look for someone to have a deep and meaningful relationship with – there are some essential traits.

Here are the signs that THAT person in your life is a keeper for sure:

1. They encourage you to spend time with your friends and family without them

2. They make the effort to get to know your friends and family

3. Their jealousy levels are a normal level and never OTT

4. They send little reminders that they are thinking of you; funny photos, texts, articles etc.

5. They don't make you jealous by flaunting other women in your face

6. They love having you around their friends

7. They keep up to date with your professional life and fully support you in your endeavours

8. They only ever use positive words about your appearance and body and never miss an opportunity to tell you that you look smashing

9. They hold your hair back after that "oopsie daisy" Cosmo too many – this is an essential trait really, ladies

10. They respect your opinion at all times even when they may not agree with it, resulting in stimulating conversations (or, you know, huge fights)

Bonus: They make you insanely happy – because at the end of the day that's all that really matters!

Eight relationship “problems” to stop worrying about!

Relationships

Jan 8, 2015

by Amber Saunders

Okay, we admit, not every relationship is built to last. Some couples will experience more issues and troubles than others. But no relationship is perfect – even the really strong ones – and sometimes the best solution to a problem is simply to stop worrying and look at the bigger picture

Some of these "problems" might seem like dealbreakers, but ask around and we bet you'll find they are pretty common…

1. You two don't have enough sex
Sex every day? Are you having a laugh?! Who has the time for that? Porn stars, that's who.

2. He never gets all lovey-dovey on Facebook
So what if you're not in his profile picture and he never comments on your page with a series of kisses and heart emojis? As long as you're feeling the love offline, all is well.

3. You argue all the time about tiny things
What to watch on Netflix, whose turn it is to do the dishes, the fact that you're always the one tasked with buying his mum a birthday present… all potential argument fodder. Every couple has arguments. We promise. The ones who say they don't are either lying or delusional.

4. You can't remember the last time you dressed up around him
Yes, your standard evening wear is more likely to be a pair of trackie bottoms and a giant jumper than a cocktail dress, but that just makes the times you do dress up even more special.

5. He has LITERALLY no interest in the TV shows you like
A mutual love of House of Cards does not a strong relationship make. Just because you two have different interests doesn't mean you're not suited – a great couple knows compromise is key.

6. "Date night" consists of a takeaway, the couch and a heavy dose of Netflix
You two don't need to go to some fancy-pants restaurant to appreciate your time together – get cosy on the couch and enjoy each other's company that way!

7. He STILL forgets your relatives' names though you've told him a million times
As long as he makes an effort with them, what's the problem?

8. You two don't spend every waking hour together
Strong couples know that being independent is just as important as spending time together, so don't fret if you've had separate plans after work a few nights in a row.

Five couples that EVERYBODY knows

Relationships

Nov 10, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Whether we want to believe it or not, if you're part of a couple then chances are you've got your own little category in the eyes of your friends and family. We'd like to assume we're one of those couples that everyone loves, but let's be realistic here, we can't ALL be that revered duo. Sigh.

Take a look below and see if any of these ring a bell.

1) The ‘We want to be part of your couple’ couple

OK fine, we ended up kind of hating this couple simply because we love and envy them so much. This is what relationships are all about. Laughter, love, mutual support and genuine admiration. Did they just chest bump? Sigh.

Hey guys? Can we be part of your relationship? You won’t even know we’re there.

2) The ‘Why are they a couple?’ couple

What is this ABOUT? They clearly detest each other, but refuse to part ways. He can’t find the remote and she blows a gasket. She misses a turn and he contemplates jail time.

What is the point? No seriously, what is the point of your relationship?

3) The handsy couple

Yes, her body is a wonderland. We know, we want it too. But must you stroke and caress it with such wild abandon? Do you know where you are? A christening, that’s where. Now, reign it in.

Some people.

4) The Social Media couple

You live together, right? You’re currently sitting on the same couch, right? So, why are you posting in-jokes to his Facebook page? Here’s an idea; don’t wait for him to log in, just swivel your head and crack him up in person.

Every date night, every thoughtful gesture and every EVERYTHING to do with their relationship is posted online. Subscribe here for their E-zine.

5) The ‘couple that should be a couple’ couple

These two people are MADE for each other, but the universe has conspired to keep them apart. You’ve watched so many near misses, so many might-have-been’s and you just can’t take it anymore.

You nearly want to take matters into your own hands. Hey guys? GET MARRIED NOW.

If you don't recognise any of these couples, there's a chance you might be IN one of these couples. Yeah, we're all hoping we're number one too!

What does your sleeping position say about your relationship?

Relationships

Oct 3, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Some couples like nothing better than cuddling up in bed, while others can think of nothing worse. The warmth! The sweating!

But could your sleeping position really say something about your relationship?

Here are some of the more common positions and what it's believed they indicate about the couple's life outside the bedroom…

1. Spooning
Ah, the spoon. Generally comfortable for about ten minutes before someone's arm goes all numb. A spooning position is apparently the sign of a happy and well-adjusted couple who are loving and enjoy being physically close while they sleep. If you're anything like us though, you'll still end up rolling to opposite edges of the bed in the middle of the night!

2. Back-to-back
This is one if the most popular sleeping positions for long-term couples. Sleeping with your backs or bums touching is a sign that you are independent but still value physical contact with your partner. It's a sign of compromise, too – each of you have space but you are still dozing off close together.

3. Back-to-back… with lots of space between you
For many couples this is simply the most comfortable option for both parties, but in some cases it can be a sign that things aren't doing well. Maybe you've had an argument or are going through a rocky patch. Physical distance in bed is a sign that there's emotional distance in the relationship.

4. Face-to-face
This is an uncommon position – after all, who wants to wake up to their partner's morning breath? – but couples in the early stages of a relationship often choose to sleep like this. Yes, it's totally impractical but you really can't get any closer!

15 things people in couples do that single people hate

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Jun 20, 2014

by Amber Saunders

There are certian things that people in couples do that drives single people mad. Like these for example:

1. Giving relationship advice to single people
Just don’t do it. They don’t want to know.

2. Using themselves as an example of a successful relationship
In their rambling about being in a relationship they use themselves as an example of a perfect relationship. Gah!

3. Referring to themselves as “we”
“We were thinking of going out if you want to join us?” or “We think it’s better to stay in tonite“. You have been going out for two weeks and you’re already talking like you’re married. Wait until you have gone out for a couple of months, when everyone starts referring to you as a couple, you will do anything to be seen as an individual.

4. Letting everyone how long you they have been together
It always seems to be some sort of anniversary, whether it’s your actual anniversary or that time when you went to the beach and got ice-cream. You think that everyone needs to know how long you guys have been together “Well next week we’re going on 6 months” which results in another annoying Facebook status about how you’ve been through so much together.

5. Comparing themselves to Jay-Z and Beyoncé
“Oh my God, Drunk in Love, that is totally us babe”, too much info, thanks.

6. Constant status updates about their significant other
“Love you babes xxx” and “you’re always there for me when I need you,” we know that you’re in a relationship, so we don’t need you to constantly update us on how things are going.

7. Posting those girly photos on Facebook
Every girl loves to post these photos to show much they love their boyfriend. Yeah, we get it, you don’t have to tell us every little thing that he does.

8. Texting each other all the time
When they get a text from the boyfriend/girlfriend there’s literally nothing else in the world that is more important. Even if they text back “k” they feel like you have to send them some long winded text about how much they love each other.

9. Synchronised laughing
It’s very creepy when you both laugh at the same time and make the exact same sound when you do it. You probably think it’s cute, but to everyone else, it’s just downright freaky.

10. Saying “Awwww” together when you see something cute
It is as if you are just one big girly organism who can’t contain themselves when they see something cute. You watched Despicable Me together and now anytime you see anything to do with minions you have to share it on their wall.

11. Singing “Your song” together
It seems to change every week, it could literally be any song about a relationship and then you say “It’s like they wrote this song for us, baby?” Yeah, because you’re the only two people in a relationship at this moment in time.

12. Whispering in each others ear and then saying you wouldn’t understand
When you’re with a couple there is nothing more annoying than when they exclude you from the conversation. They whisper in each other’s ear and pretend like nothing happened. If you’re going to be that juvenile, you might as well pass each other notes like you used to do in school.

13. You bring a plus one even when they haven’t been invited
Even when your boyfriend/girlfriend isn’t invited you still insist on bringing a plus one. You say it’s because you can’t stand being away from them but really you just don’t trust them.

14. Prolonged public displays of affection
We get you love each other and that you want to express it physically, but you’re not at home, you’re in a public space. We don’t need to see you getting freaky on a park bench when we’re eating lunch.

15. Telling everyone how much you have in common
“It’s like were the same person, we have so much in common.” If one of these things is that you both like The Notebook, we have some bad news. Guys just say they like things so that girls will think that they have a sensitive side.

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