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We all loved him and his twin brother in Desperate Housewives as the Scavo twins, and now Charlie Carver has come out as gay. 

The actor came out on Instagram last night in a series of heartwarming posts, which explained in detail his feelings towards revealing his true self to the public. 

A total of five posts were uploaded to his page, with the exact same picture that read, "Be who you needed when you were younger."

We're delighted that Charlie can now be himself to the world, and reading his IG posts below will warm your heart: 

 

Pt 1: “Be who you needed when you were younger”. About a year ago, I saw this photo while casually scrolling through my Instagram one morning. I’m not one for inspirational quotes, particularly ones attributed to “Mx Anonymous”- something mean in me rebukes the pithiness of proverbs, choosing to judge them as trite instead of possibly-generally-wise, resonant, or helpful. And in the case of the good ol’ Anonymous kind, I felt that there was something to be said for the missing context. Who wrote or said the damn words? Why? And to/for who in particular? Nonetheless, I screen-capped the picture and saved it. It struck me for some reason, finding itself likeable enough to join the ranks of the “favorites” album on my phone. I’d see it there almost daily, a small version of it next to my other “favorites”; I’d see it every time I checked into the gym, pulled up a picture of my insurance cards, my driver’s license…. Important Documents. And over the course of about-a-year, it became clear why the inspirational photo had called out to me. As a young boy, I knew I wanted to be an actor. I knew I wanted to be a lot of things! I thought I wanted to be a painter, a soccer player, a stegosaurus… But the acting thing stuck. It was around that age that I also knew, however abstractly, that I was different from some of the other boys in my grade. Over time, this abstract “knowing” grew and articulated itself through a painful gestation marked by feelings of despair and alienation, ending in a climax of saying three words out loud: “I am gay”. I said them to myself at first, to see how they felt. They rang true, and I hated myself for them. I was twelve. It would take me a few years before I could repeat them to anyone else, in the meantime turning the phrase over and over in my mouth until I felt comfortable and sure enough to let the words pour out again, this time to my family…

A photo posted by Charlie Carver (@charliecarver) on

 

 

Pt 2: For anyone who can identify with that experience (and I think we all can to some degree; saying something from a place of integrity, owning and declaring oneself), the immediate and comingling sense of relief and dread might sound familiar to you. For me, and my family, it was a precious conversation, one where I felt that I’d begun to claim myself, my life, and what felt like the beginning of a very-adult-notion of my own Authenticity. For that, and for them, I am forever grateful. *Note “Coming Out” is different for everyone. You can always Come Out to yourself. Coming Out as Gay/Bi/Trans/Non-Binary/Yourself or What-Have-You is at first a personal and private experience. If you’re ready and feel safe, then think about sharing this part of yourself with others. I recognize that I was born with an immense amount of privilege, growing up in a family where my orientation was celebrated and SAFE. If you feel like you want to Come Out, make sure first and foremost that you have a support system and will be safe. I would never encourage anyone to Come Out only to find themselves in harm’s way – a disproportionate number of Homeless American (and Global) Youth are members of the LGBTQ community who were kicked out of their families and homes out of hate and prejudice. It is a major issue in-and-of itself, and a situation not worth putting oneself at risk for. The more I adjusted to living outwardly in this truth, the better I felt. But my relationship to my sexuality soon became more complicated. The acting thing HAD stuck, and at nineteen I started working in Hollywood. It was a dream come true, one I had been striving for since boyhood. But coupled with the overwhelming sense of excitement was an equally overwhelming feeling of dread- I would “have to” bisect myself into two halves, a public and private persona, the former vigilantly monitored, censored, and sterilized of anything that could reveal how I self-identified in the latter. I had my reasons, some sound and some nonsensical. I do believe in a distinction between one’s professional life and their private one…

A photo posted by Charlie Carver (@charliecarver) on

 

 

Pt 3: After the first episode of television I shot went to air, it became clear to me that I was at least no longer anonymous. For the first time, I found myself stopped on the street, asked to take a picture by a complete stranger – part of the job I had willingly signed up for. Fame, to whatever degree, is a tricky creature. In this day and age, particularly with the access offered by social media, it demands that you be On, that you be Yourself, Always, in your work and to your fans. In this way, the distinction between public and private has become blurry, begging questions like “to what extent do I share myself? Do what extent do I have to?” When it came to this differentiation of public/private, I was of the opinion that my sexuality could stay off the table. While my Coming Out was very important for me, I wanted to believe in a world where one’s sexuality was for the most part irrelevant. That it didn’t “matter,” or that at least it was something that didn’t need to or ideally shouldn’t ever have to be announced to a stranger, a new colleague, an interviewer. Even the words “Coming Out” bothered me. I took issue with them insofar as that “Coming Out” implied being greeted with attention, attention for something I would prefer to be implicitly just Human, an attribute or adjective that was only part of how I saw my whole self. I did not want to be defined by my sexuality. Sure, I am a proud gay man, but I don’t identify as a Gay man, or a GAY man, or just gay. I identify as a lot of things, these various identifications and identities taking up equal space and making up an ever-fluid sense of Self. Furthermore, as an actor, I believed that my responsibility to the craft and the business was to remain benevolently neutral – I was a canvas, a chameleon, the next character. For the most part I had a duty to stay a Possibility in the eye of casting, directors, and the public. If I Came Out, I feared I would be limiting myself to a type, to a perception with limits that I was not professionally comfortable with. And I created in my imagination an Industry that was just as rigid in this belief as well.

A photo posted by Charlie Carver (@charliecarver) on

 

 

Pt 4: After having the privilege of playing a range of characters, gay, straight and otherwise, I realize this is not the case. Things in this business have changed and will continue to. Thank GOD. I know that because of all of the brave men and women who’ve come out, self-identified, or couldn’t have possibly ever been “In”. So to them, I am also forever grateful. But then I saw that little photo on Instagram. Well, in truth, it had found me long after I’d made up my mind to write something like this. There were so many drafts and plans, none of them ever getting off the ground. So I bided my time, justifying the silence with the fact that I hadn’t really ever been “in”. I tried to live as authentically as I’ve known how to, as a gay guy, since that concept became available to me, only once or twice intentionally dodging the ever ill-timed question with the subtext that might have as well read “ARE YOU GAY???” I’ve lived “out,” not feeling the need to announce so. I was comfortably out in my private life. And for a time, that was enough. Things change. There’s a lot about the Now that I’m very excited about these days. I feel like more and more people, particularly young people, are striving to create a safe world for each other. We’re learning new vocabularies to help others feel heard when they try and articulate their perceived “otherness”- words like cis- and trans-, non-binary, fluid… We’re together exploring the possibilities of the Social Media Frontier, experimenting with new ways to connect, galvanize, and awaken. I get fucking MOVED every time I hear a high school voted in their transgender classmate as Prom King or Prom Queen, or when I see Twitter afire with outrage over mistreatment, brutality, and injustice. But I also mourn over what feels like a lot of anger and righteous indignance. I long for the world to be simple, for everyone to feel happy and safe in who they are as individuals and members of a community. I can only hope that the beginning of this unrest is productive, something our generation(s) is moving through in order to end up someplace better.

A photo posted by Charlie Carver (@charliecarver) on

 

 

Pt 5: But what can I do? How can I participate? Honesty is probably a great step in the right direction. I now believe that by omitting this part of myself from the record, I am complicit in perpetuating the suffering, fear, and shame cast upon so many in the world. In my silence, I’ve helped decide for to you too that to be gay is to be, as a young man (or young woman, young anyone), inappropriate for a professional career in the Arts (WHAAA???) So now, let the record show this- I self-identify as gay. And does that really matter anymore? As a young man, I needed a young man in Hollywood to say that- and without being a dick about it, I owe it to myself, more than anything, to be who I needed when I was younger. Happy 2016, and all my best to you and yours in the year ahead. And let the record show my twin brother is just as cool for being straight. Much Love, C

A photo posted by Charlie Carver (@charliecarver) on

 

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Sensationally, it has been reported that Cristiano Ronaldo is in a relationship with Moroccan kickboxer, Badr Hari.

The bizarre report surfaced after stories emerged in the Spanish press that he was making regular trips to Morocco to see Badr.

The Real Madrid footballer is known for dating a string of supermodels, but is said to recently be regularly visiting kickboxer friend Badr Hari for 'cuddles', according to the Daily Mail. 

This lead to a discussion on French TV about what footballers do in their spare time.

One of the pundits, Daniel Riolo, stated during the TV show: "What I’m interested in is what players do on the pitch, and whether their side activities might have an impact on that.

"Take the example of Cristiano Ronaldo – I'm sure flying off to Morocco three to four times a week to see a friend and cuddle with him might have an impact on his performances eventually."

This later sparked a worldwide debate on social media of whether the footballer is gay. 

It was claimed he used the private jet to take him to Morocco after training and back again the same night so he could attend the following day's training.

We have to say, they do look cosy, but are these rumours going too far?

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Several reports from the UK this weekend suggest that two high-profile Premier League footballers are preparing to come out as gay.

There are currently no openly homosexual athletes playing in the sport’s top tier in England.

One story in The Mirror today states that the players – one of whom is an English international – feel that the time is right, and that there is a far better climate of acceptance now.

The newspapers also says that the players are eager to make the announcement before the beginning of next season.

Almost every other major sport, from hurling to rugby, has had players speak openly about their sexuality and continue their careers without any major disruption.

However, professional football in the UK has yet to be tested in the same way.

Former Aston Villa player Thomas Hitzlsperger said he was gay after he retired in 2014 and Robbie Rogers [pictured above] quit the game after saying he was gay in 2012 before returning to the sport. He now plays for LA Galaxy alongside Robbie Keane.

The Mirror also reports that one well-known player told friends he was gay in 2011 but his car was them daubed with a homophobic slur.

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National Football League player Michael Sam has thanked One Direction star Harry Styles for his support after he performed in his jersey.

Harry was singing on stage in St Louis, Missouri, when he wore Michael's Rams blue and yellow shirt with his name and number on the back.

When Michael, who became the first openly gay man drafted into the NFL, caught wind of what Harry was wearing, he hit Twitter to thank him for his support.

The St. Louis Rams also tweeted a shot of Harry wearing the jersey on stage at the band's show.

Earlier this week, a US TV outlet was forced to release a statement saying it regretted a controversial report that discussed the showering habits of Michael and whether he was avoiding the shower when teammates were present.

Back in March, the 24-year-old broke down in tears as he was told he had been drafted to the St Louis Rams in the NFL draft, becoming the first openly gay player in the league’s history.

 

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The was a lot of coverage of Maria Walsh, the 2014 Rose of Tralee, coming out as gay, and many people wondered why this was news. After all, it IS the 21st century and a person’s sexuality shouldn’t be an issue anymore.

However, Ryan Tubridy explained why it was covered in all the papers:

“It’s a massive deal. Not so much the fact that she’s gay but the fact that she is, I think, the first gay Rose.

“And I would qualify that by saying ‘the first gay Rose to come out’. I think when you look at the number of all the Roses down through all the years, do you think she was the only gay Rose?”

Tubridy then did the maths, and revealed that it’s very unlikely that 100% of the Irish rugby squad are heterosexual:

“I say the same thing about the Irish rugby team. Do you think that all 15 of those boys are heterosexual, you know, full-blooded males? Probably not. Statistically one of them’s probably gay.”

However, Ryan says that whoever he is, he won’t be coming out anytime soon, because while it’s easy for people to say that being gay isn’t an issue anymore, coming out to the public is still a frightening prospect:

“Will he come out? No, no he won’t. Why not? Because that’s why this woman is in the papers today, because she’s come out.

“A lot of people I think are still not willing to come out, particularly at a young age. They’re in the public eye, they are concerned by what people will say still.

“So for all the talk of saying, ‘sure look there’s no news in that, sure it’s easy being gay in the 21st century and 2014′, I don’t know about that.”

 

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Gorgeous Rose of Tralee winner Maria Walsh has opened up about her sexuality in an interview, saying she is ‘gay and proud’.

Maria was born in Boston, Massachusetts, but moved to Shrule in Co Mayo when she was only seven-years-old.

She took home the Newbridge Silver crown as the Philadelphia Rose on Tuesday night, and has been inundated with messages of support ever since.

 “I’m not ashamed of my sexuality by any means,” Maria said. “I’m confident in who I am as a person”.

“To me, being gay is normal. I told my parents and they were supportive as they knew would be”.

The 27-year-old graduated from Griffith College Dublin in 2009 and now lives in Philadelphia where she works as a studio manager for clothing and lifestyle brand, Anthropologie.

Maria said that she is currently single and that the question of her sexuality never cropped up during the festival.

“The Rose of Tralee is about celebrating women’s intelligence, careers, their volunteer work,” she continued. “The question of sexuality never came up. To me, being gay is normal; it’s natural”.

Executive chairman of the festival, Anthony O’Gara, said Maria’s interview may, “create some interest, hopefully all positive”.

We wish Maria every luck and happiness in her role as Rose of Tralee this year!

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When Luke Grimes quit True Blood we were told it was over ‘creative differences’, but now a report is saying that those creative differences were because the writers had planned on Luke’s character James having an affair with the openly gay Lafayette, played by Nelsan Ellis.

A source revealed that Grimes would only play the role if it was clear that Lafayette’s attraction to him wasn’t mutual, and he objected to any same sex kissing or sex scenes.

Grimes’ publicist claimed that he dropped out of the show to pursue other opportunities.

We’re sure he’ll be releasing a statement to deny everything any day now!

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SHEmazing! TV offers you your daily 90 Second Update rounding up the showbiz news!

Today’s highlights include Miley Cyrus encouraging fans to use the date rape drug if they’re not getting their way, why Will.I.Am was kicked out of a first class airport lounge, the reason behind Lindsay Lohan being threatened with a jail sentence and much more.

Watch the video for the full report.

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Lena Dunham said it was a “huge disappointment” to her to discover she wasn’t gay.

The Girls star said her “connection” to the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) community is so “strong” that she was overjoyed when her sister, Grace, 22 came out five years ago.

Speaking at Point Honors Gala in New York, which helps LGBT students and those who are questioning their sexuality, Lena said, “I have always felt a strong and emotional connection to members of the LGBTQ community. It was actually a huge disappointment for me when I came of age and realised that I was sexually attracted to men.”

“So when my sister came out, I thought, ‘Thank God, now someone in this family can truly represent my beliefs and passions'”.

Lena – who is in a relationship with musician Jack Antonoff – said she finds gay men attractive, adding that she had dated one or two in the past.

She said, “This is probably the most attractive room I have yet to enter, Gay men clean up real good, which is probably why I have dated so many of you.”

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We’ve all been wondering and now the popstar has finally come out!

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