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Whether you think a proposal might be around the corner or you have no intention of ever walking up the aisle, the vast majority of us are still suckers when it comes to a bit of a bling.

And if swooning over sparklers is your thing, chances are you've trawled Instagram on more than one occasion in order to gawk at some of the rocks currently populating the social media site.

As it turns out, we did it recently ourselves, and felt compelled to share our favourites with y'all.

Time to throw on the shades ladies 'cos you're about to be dazzled.

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And there she was… We just can't stop staring at this stunningly elegant ring from the lovely team at @gatteajewellers

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And if you need us, we'll be fashioning one of out tinfoil. 

 

 

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It's no secret that men have a much easier time reaching orgasm than women do.

While we do indeed have the capacity to enjoy multiple orgasms, that doesn't mean we always get to. (Sigh.)

And that's apparently where the Orgasm Shot comes in.

According to The Independent, Harley Street clinician, Dr Sharif Wakil, is keen to give patients the kickstart they might need in the bedroom with the help of the O-Shot.

Invented by Dr Charles Runels, the O-Shot claims to increase sexual arousal and can 'rejuvenate a woman's vagina' as long as you're willing to shell out £1,000 for the 40-minute procedure, that is.

After producing Platelet Rich Plasma from platelets containing the patient’s own blood, the clinician injects the substance into various areas of the vagina in order to ensure a more pleasurable sex life.

According to Dr Wakil, patients have reported stronger and more frequent orgasms, increased natural lubrication and greater arousal, but stresses that it shouldn't be considered a miracle cure.

Speaking to The Independent, he highlights the various factors which may reduce the outcome of the treatment.

"The results in general of the o shot varies, I always explain to my patients, it depends on where we are at the starting point, for example, their age, if they have medical conditions or  whether they have hormonal problems," he explains.

"This is a part of the female body that sees a lot of changes through life: from delivery, menopause, hormonal changes, and aging. So we have to expect some reduction in sensation at least for some but we should not treat this is as an abnormality."

Insistent that women shouldn't ignore issues relating to female sexual disfunction, Dr Wakil reasons that the repercussions are far-reaching.

"The abnormality is not seeking help because of a stigma, in my opinion, ignoring female sexual dysfunction with the negative effects it could have on the female life, family, socially and work for example is one form of female abuse."

Having carried out more than 2,000 procedures, Dr Wakil confirms he has never seen any side effects of the injection.

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If you've ever been on the receiving end of unsolicited photos of male genitalia, you've probably questioned what in the name of God compelled the person on the other end of the phone to do it.

Well, according to a sex and relationship expert, the inclination stems from one of two things; the desire to procreate and the desire to shock.

With a recent study revealing that 47 per cent of men have sent an unrequested pic of their bits, Dr Justin Lehmiller weighed in on the practice and provided the public with two theories for this behaviour.

The first theory focuses on men's desire to procreate, and highlights some men's inability to differentiate between friendliness and flirting.

The theory suggests that when a man overestimates a woman's interest in him, his subconscious considers procreation and this ultimately helps him to rationalise exposing himself.

"Although this strategy means men are necessarily going to fail a high percentage of the time, it requires a relatively low investment on their part while ensuring that they don’t miss out on anyone who might be interested," writes Dr Lehmiller.

Dr Lehmiller stresses that while this behaviour can be explained on some levels, it doesn't justify the practice.

"Let me be perfectly clear about one thing: even if we think of this behaviour as being adaptive in an evolutionary sense, this isn’t to say that it’s OK or excusable for men to send women photos that they don’t want to see."

The second theory is (perhaps unsurprisingly) based on the concept of exhibitionism.

According to Dr Lehmiller, some men hope their snaps will lead to sex while others simply get a kick out of eliciting a shocked response from recipients.

"Although most people think of exhibitionism in terms of guys who flash strangers on the subway or in a park, a similar kind of behaviour can also occur online or over the phone," he writes.

"This behaviour is linked to having poor social and interpersonal skill – as such, some psychologists believe that exhibitionistic tendencies develop following the inability to establish relationships in a more conventional way," he adds.

And now we know.

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Twitter can be a cruel, cruel place when it wants to be, and right now we have Nick Lutz to thank for that one.

In a post which has amassed a staggering 301,000 likes since its upload three days ago, Nick has left Twitter in no doubt that when it comes to past relationships, he's got no time for chancers.

Sharing a photo of a heartfelt letter which was penned by his ex-girlfriend, Nick revealed that while he had indeed taken the time to read the detailed apology, he also took the time to grade it and return it to her.

With the help of a red pen, Nick advised his ex that certain statements she made throughout the correspondence needed further clarification before he could award her a higher grade.

"Long intro short conclusion. Strong hypothesis but nothing to back it up. Details are important," he wrote.

"If you want to be believed, back it up with proof. You claim that cheating never occurred but place blame on yourself – then what for? Need to stop contradicting your own story and pick a side. While this gesture is appreciated, I would prefer details over statements."

And it's not just Nick who is willing to grade the letter, with countless Twitter users weighing in on the various errors exhibited throughout.

"Should have failed her. You missed that she listed "a lot" as one word in her intro," wrote one while another added: "Misspelled that so I say they should get a 58."

Ah lads…

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If the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise is a fairly accurate representation of your own sex life, chances are you've sustained more than a few injuries due to the kinkiness of your antics, right?

And while no one relishes the idea of revealing everything about their sex life to their GP, a recent report in Marie Claire highlights the importance of informing your general practitioner so as to ensure you receive the best treatment should you sustain a sex-related injury.

According to a study published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, more than 50 per cent of BDSM practitioners choose not to tell their GPs about their sex life for fear of judgement, even if this means failing to receive the proper treatment.

Highlighting the importance of transparency in such a situation, Carol Queen, sex educator and author of The Sex & Pleasure Book urges the public to speak up.

"Doctors aren't mind readers, and they're mostly very poorly trained about kinky sexual practices," she explained.

"Hearing real info from patients will help them put faces to sexual practices and help them better understand what the stakes are."

Refusing to attend a doctor after sustaining a sex-related injury leaves you vulnerable to further discomfort, with sex therapist, Anna Randall, saying: "Big bruises can develop into hematomas, for example."

"There are rare injuries from rough sex that may lead to serious complications, such as torn vaginal tissue or scrotum injuries, and because more risky sexual BDSM behaviors may include controlling the breathing of a partner, those with asthma face real risks if they're not treated for attacks immediately," she continues.

And if you do decide to seek treatment, but conceal the circumstances that led to a specific injury, you are limiting the medical professional's ability to properly treat the area. 

Addressing the reluctance exhibited by many BDSM practitioners, Anna insists that, on the whole, the fear has little grounding in reality.

"It's also important to know that people anticipate more stigma than they experience actual stigma," she says.

"There's a really good chance you're not going to get shamed and often even if doctors don't know the answers, they'll usually try to find out more."

Something to think about, right?

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Just when we thought Twitter was nothing but a hotbed of angst right now, we came across Dawsyn Eubanks and her legendary best friend who reminded us that the Twitophere is sometimes the only place we want to be.

In a post which has amassed more than 300,000 likes in just 13 hours, Dawsyn revealed that when it comes to #SquadGoals, she and her best friend, Georgia, have it absolutely nailed.

While on a first date this week, Dawsyn received a text from Georgia asking why she had yet to tuck into her meal.

Stunned by the accuracy of the message, she was advised to look behind her where she realised her mate had donned a disguise, and was keeping watch from a secluded corner of the restaurant to ensure everything went well. 

Unsurprisingly, Twitter cant get enough of this, and wasted no time asking if the girls had any vacancies for a third wheel.

"I WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH HER SO MUCH," wrote one while another added; "That's what best friends are for."

Georgia, take a bow.
 

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Remember the last time you hoofed into a tray of fast food, and then felt that oh-so-familiar twinge to get down and dirty with your other half?

Yeah, us neither, but that hasn't stopped Burger King getting in on some Valentine's Day action by providing its customers with 'an adult toy' with every 'adult meal' purchase.

No, seriously.

After 6pm today, Burger King connoisseurs in Israel can tuck into two Whoppers, two orders of fries, and two beers before making use of an adult toy provided by the global corporation.

If that's not romance, we don't know what is.

Oh, but if you think those lucky divils over in Israel will be making use of gadgets seen only in Fifty Shades of Grey, think again.

It looks like the 'adult toy' in question comes in the form of an eye-mask, a feather duster or a head-massager.

Disappointed? Yeah, us too.

 

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These days, we get a lot of information from the Internet.

You're sick? Google it. You're stuck on a crossword puzzle? Google it. Can't remember the name of that great movie? Google it.

But for the day that's in it, I think that one thing we shouldn't be Google-ing is love.

Yet, taking a quick flick through Facebook, I come across article upon article telling me that 'These three signs mean your relationship is going to last' and 'How to make this Valentine's Day the best one yet'.

One website I stumbled upon had five articles in a row from 'experts' telling its readers how to do Valentine's Day or how to survive it if you're single.

But why do we need this? Why do we need a stranger to validate our relationships? And why the f*ck is someone telling you that you need to survive this day? It's not the zombie apocalypse.

In an article titled 'Valentine's Day: how to survive and achieve romantic enlightenment', I came across a paragraph that reads, "Valentine's Day is a 'thing' and you're going to do it properly. You spend 42 hours choosing an outfit, then cry when you still don't look genuinely pretty."

Seriously? Is every girl who reads this supposed to believe that this how Valentine's Day should be? That we have to put ourselves under that much pressure 'for the day that's in it'? 

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We rely so much on these 'Internet professionals', but we don't even know who they are. So, why should we trust them? 

Because, let's be honest – if you have a fight with your other half, you're going to click into that article that reads 'Experts say this is the one sure-fire sign your relationship is in trouble' and then you're going to freak TF out that your partner is going to break up with you because the article says he isn't your soulmate.

These articles are far from helpful and probably put more worry in us than anything else. It's so unnecessary.

And from these articles, there's a fall back effect in society.

On a recent night out, I was told by an acquaintance I was too young to be in a relationship, and that she read on the Internet that a person of my age shouldn't be tied down to a man, which she agrees with.

But why was it her business? And why was she believing these people on the Internet even though I, in person, was telling her I was happy?

The same goes for people who are single. One of my close friends is at breaking-point with people telling her to "get a man." And while she dibs her toe in the dating department, she's content with her single life and is thriving in her career – so why are people pressuring her to settle down?

And the laughable thing is, we're the same age. Yet, I shouldn't be with my partner and she should be with one.

Look, we all want that happy ending. We all want successful careers and loving relationships – but we need to start trusting ourselves more and stop believing everything these people behind the keyboard tell us.

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Whether you're single or partnered-up, if you're happy, you're happy. We all need to stop putting such unnecessary strain on ourselves because the Internet is telling us that something is wrong – when really, for the most part, everything is perfectly fine.

Trust your family, trust your friends, hell, trust your dog… but most importantly, when it comes to your love life, trust yourself.

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Among the many, many theories we’ve been encouraged to internalise as young women, it appears that the one about not having sex on a first date has really proven its longevity.

In much the same way The Boy Who Cried Wolf aimed to discourage dishonesty among children, the story of The Gal Who Gave It Up On the First Date was created as a cautionary tale directed solely at single women.

The story goes that a woman who has sex on a first date has no chance of seeing that bloke again, will spend countless nights waiting by the phone wondering what went wrong before eventually stumbling across his marriage announcement in a national newspaper.

(His bethrothed will, of course, wait until their wedding night before the big event.)

Handed down from generation to generation, the tale mournfully insists that the girl who gives it up won't get the guy.

But, here's the thing, maybe she doesn't want to.

Maybe she only wants sex. Maybe he only wants sex. Or maybe it has absolutely no bearing on the future of the relationship when both parties have (rightfully) moved beyond the scare tactics of those who have gone before us.

Suffice to say, our male counterparts were rarely subjected to the same diatribe; with the vast majority told, instead, to go out and sow their wild oats before settling down.

And who were they to sow them with, exactly? Well, that would be the single women who should know better than to have sex on a first date, most likely.

And the cycle continues.

While there’s little doubt that the narrative has been diluted in recent decades – hardly surprising considering we live in an age when you can swipe and shag without ever making it to the first ‘date’ –  it would be folly to suggest that it has disappeared completely.

This week alone, numerous headlines have raised the question as to whether sex on a first date would make or break a possible union, while recent research has been devoted to examining whether engaging in the no-pants-dance ‘too early’ has the potential to ruin a burgeoning romance.

And while the vast majority of us insist that those cautionary tales have little effect on our decision to get down and dirty on Date One, there is a lingering fear –  among some of us – that those very tales hold more than a grain of truth.

Why else would women still discuss the ‘third-date rule’ in 2017?  Why else would some of us wonder if our long-term partner ever reflected on our decision to do it on Date One? And why else does research into the topic still garner press attention?

Simply put, it's because some deep-seated notions just aren’t that easy to shake off.

And yet in a time when rape culture is ever-prevalent and in some dark corners of societies even celebrated, it beggars belief that judgement regarding the act of consensual sex is still making headlines.

Whether it’s the first or forty-first date, if it’s consensual, why is it even up for discussion?

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An Instagram page, which is currently memorialising people who lost their battle with AIDS, is gaining considerable traction online this week.

The AIDS Memorial Page allows members of the public to share photographs and memories of loved ones who died from the virus over the course of the last three decades, and there's no denying it makes for heartbreaking reading.

Reminding internet users that their siblings, partners and friends were much, much more than a mere statistic, contributors have given thousands of followers an insight into the people behind the diagnosis.

And here are just some of the posts which have struck a chord with the public over recent days.
 

 

 

"…..a photo of Peter (pictured left) and myself from 2011 (a little over a year before he left this world). This pic was at our 16th anniversary party (Peter always had the amazing tradition of celebrating monthly anniversaries rather than yearly ones…so actually this was our 192nd anniversary!) …. I recommit to Pete's spirit of never being silent, always being an advocate, always speaking truth to power. Even in his deepest, darkest days of depression, even when confined to institutions, Pete knew that making noise in the face of injustice was itself the highest form of social justice. Peter, thanks for your example of always celebrating all forms of diversity and embracing the dignity inherent in all. I'll carry you in my heart and soul as I take to the streets to ensure that we continue to "Lift every voice…." May our lives and actions continue to serve as our strong living memorials to those we lost to AIDS" – by Richard Carrillo #whatisrememberedlives #theaidsmemorial #aidsmemorial #neverforget #endaids

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"Springtime #Boston 1985, I was 25 and going to school at #Emerson & working various part time jobs. I came home to find my lover & partner sitting on the steps, with his face in his hands sobbing. I had an uneasy feeling what he was about to tell me. He lifted his head and sobbed that he had indeed he was infected with #HIV. All I could do was hold him, cry together and try to reassure him that somehow we would make it. He confessed, that much of his grief was not only about the terror of losing his life, which he did 6 years later, but also about his fear that he had infected me. I waited all of 9 months to a year to get the courage to get tested. I will never forget the moment the MD told me the news about my infection … #JudyCollins was on the radio singing #SendintheClowns…that song will always be profoundly memorable for me, as if it wasn't already. After the initial shock, horror & depression subsided at 26, I made a vow to live as deeply, purely and passionately as possible with whatever time I had left. I returned to my calling as a #VisualArtist. I was open about my status & became vocal & vigilant at every turn, for ways that we could work as a community of artists and #HIVpositive people, to fight the stigma, shame, misinformation, prejudice, exclusion & negligence we faced. I had my first solo exhibition in a gallery one year after my diagnosis and devoted the exhibition to the philosophical and spiritual ideas & imagery of personal transformation. I can say that after the first couple of years of my infection I began to find ways to frame #HIV as a "blessing" buried in the "beast" of this illness and as a catalyst for growth. There have been many long, lean, hard times, as well as some glorious & peak passages during this 31 year odyssey of both living #HIVpositive & as a working artist. Today at 57 my passion for spiritual focus & living the authentic life of artistry has never been greater!" – by Karlton Johnson #whatisrememberedlives #theaidsmemorial #aidsmemorial #neverforget #neverforget #endaids #karltonjohnsonfineart #inspiredlivingmhs

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#Repost @katherinezitterbart ・・・ #TBT Sunday dinner with our dear friend Joel. My twin brother and I were freshmen in high school, IIRC. Joel lived with us after his family #disowned him when he #cameout as #gay. He was the first person I saw deteriorate and die due to complications of #HIV #AIDS. Seeing his emotional suffering at the hand of his family, and the impact of witnessing his decline, are two factors that influenced me towards #activism around #humanrights. This was decades before we had acronyms like #lgbtq. I consider myself #queer, though my strong tendency is to partner with men. If you are curious about what life was like during the #AIDSCrisis, why I identify as I do.. if you need someone to talk to. I'm here. …….. ……… I SEE YOU ……. ……. #kayteezee #lovealwayslove ….. ….. @the_aids_memorial @lgbt_history @humansofsquirrelhill @humanrightscampaign #whatisrememberedlives #theaidsmemorial #aidsmemorial #endaids #neverforget

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Earlier this week, we reported on legislation which sought to decriminalise certain forms of domestic violence in Russia.

At the time of writing, the proposal was making its way through Russian parliament. 

It was awaiting second approval from the lower house before being approved by the upper chamber and receiving sign-off from president Vladimir Putin.

And according to emerging reports this afternoon, the legislation has now been passed.

While it does still await official approval from both the upper chamber and the president, it is understood that theses processes are considered mere formalities, and having been approved for a second time, the legislation will now become law.

It has been established that the State Duma voted 380-3 to eliminate criminal liability for battery on family members which does not cause actual bodily harm.

This development means that battering a spouse will only become punishable by either a fine of less than $500, a nominal 15 days of 'administrative arrest', or community service.

President Putin has signalled his support of the controversial bill.
 

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We all remember how it felt when we met our partners, the passion was euphoric. Hearts and pulses racing, the nerves when they would walk into a room, and the butterflies in our stomachs kept us on a constant high.

In the beginning, you were inseparable, you couldn’t get enough of each other. But endless bickering has replaced late nights, endless texts, lustful glances, dinners and movies.

So, when all that subsides, does it mean the relationship is dead, or is there something deeper going on?

Most individuals enter into a relationship with some form of baggage, personal needs, hopes, and desires meaning that couples won’t always be on the same page, and arguments will flare up.

So, if you find yourselves constantly arguing,counselling may help to restore some equilibrium.

Here is what to do when you want to revive your relationship:

1. Speak to a professional

A qualified counsellor is trained to teach you how to communicate effectively, which can only help, right? Many people feel safer sharing their feelings with their partner in the presence of a mediator, as it gives the opportunity to talk honestly and openly.

Often, we are so consumed by what is bothering us, we forget to listen, or hear the other person.

2. Talking and listening

Counselling will help, but try to listen, talk, and stay calm with your other half. Good communication is so important in a relationship, and will help to keep it strong, even when things get tough.

3. Have some fun together

Being cooped up in the house all the time is no fun at all. Yes, Netflix is brilliant, but you can’t spend your life in front of the TV. If you’re stuck in the house a lot, and are constantly at each other’s throats, chances are you’re both suffering from cabin fever.

The daily grind can be stressful, so why not get out of the house? Go on a date, and remember what it was like when you first fell in love.

Feel the stress melt away, rekindle the romance, and sparks will fly!

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