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Countless numbers of Irish women might disagree – but research has now revealed that men are, in fact, BETTER in bed after taking a few pints of the black stuff.

Yes, in her recently published book, The Married Sex Solution: A Realistic Guide To Saving Your Sex Life, Dr Kat Van Kirk highlights the four different ways beer-drinking guys benefit when it comes to getting busy in between the sheets.

And coming in for particular praise are dark beers such as Guinness.

Why? Because, explains Dr Kirk and as reported by askmen.com, the high amounts of iron contained in stout increases the amount of blood circulation to the penis. This in turn can then boost a man’s libido and lead to longer, more intense erections.

That's not all, however. No siree. Dr Kirk, a clinical sexologist and marriage and family therapist, also explains that beer ultimately supplies your body with plenty of phytoestrogens which are scientifically proven to delay orgasm.

Meanwhile, Italian researchers have found that daily beer drinkers have more stamina than their sober counterparts — and are 31 percent less likely to have heart disease, heart attacks or strokes (nope, we're not questioning it either).

Finally, Guinness is especially rich in probiotics and B vitamins, which are excellent for digestive health (because nothing says 'mood kill' like a dodgy tum). This also means "you won’t feel sluggish during sex," Dr Kirk adds.

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You hope you can change them… in reality you rarely can: the serial cheater. They’re the guys and gals who seemingly ‘don’t do relationships,’ or who just can’t help themselves straying.

And while having your heart-broken may sometimes be unavoidable, according to a new study from Texas Tech University, there is a MAJOR red-flag to look out for.

In short: sleeping around runs in families.

Frighteningly, nearly half of the subjects that researchers spoke to who were raised by philandering parents also admitted to having cheated on a partner.

This means these men and women are actually TWICE as likely to stray.

The tendency to sleep around is partly genetic, author Dana Weiser, PhD explains. Other scientists have found that you can also inherit biological traits, like dopamine receptors, that make you crave multiple partners. 

But Dr Weiser furthermore suspects that your parents shape your expectations for your own relationships. For example, if a parent failed to be faithful, you may conclude that monogamy is unreasonable or impossible. And that belief could turn out to be a self-fulfilling prophecy.

So what do you do if you’re currently in a relationship where your other half grew up in an adulterous environment? Or if you are the one from a non-monogamous home?

Don’t worry! You’re not entirely doomed, Dr Weiser says. However, you do need to be aware of how past experiences have affected you.

And remember, there’s another huge predictor of cheating that you actually have control over: the strength of your relationship. Pouring your energy into communicating, having fun, and trying new things together is one of the best safeguards against infidelity, Dr Weiser adds.

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For many women, their daily beauty routine can be a source of frustration.

If one brow is aching more than other, or you can’t seem to get your eyeliner to match then you could get up throwing bronzer all over the place in irritation. Don’t even get us started on trying to find the time to ‘bake’ our faces. 

The people at Revlon partnered with Fordham University in the US to see if a daily beauty and self-love routine could help women increase their self-confidence- and improve how they felt about their relationships.

They asked several women to start a daily ritual of self-affirmations and keeping a journal. 

First the women and their partners were quizzed about their relationships- and what they identified at the biggest insecurities and turn-ons for the women.

Confidence was cited as being a big one. Then, the women were given their new daily routine. 

Find a private place where you can spend a couple of minutes going through the ritual:

– Look at yourself in the mirror.
– Apply fragrance or scented lotion.
– Apply eye makeup.
– Enjoy a mint or piece of chocolate.
– Apply lipstick or gloss.
– Take a slow, deep breath. 
– Look at yourself in the mirror.
– Smile.

After one week, they were asked to come back and give a report of how they felt about themselves. Meanwhile, their partners were asked to listen, and things got very emotional. 

After trying their new routine, 97 per cent of the women felt a positive change in themselves. 

It was also discovered that 71 per cent had an “increased desire for romance,” 69 per cent were more open to finding love, 77 per cent felt more outgoing and social and 74 per cent said they were more likely to flirt.

You need to watch the whole video, but grab some tissues first because it will hit you smack bang in the feelings! 

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Diamonds may be a girl's best friend, but denim is a girl's best lover.

Say what?

Yup, it's not good news for the boys: a new report has now revealed that women hang onto their clothes longer than they hang onto their men.

While the average relationship lasts only two years and nine months, a woman's favourite piece of clothing, a pair of blue jeans, lasts more than three years. 

The research, which appeared yesterday in the The Sun on Sunday, shows that nearly half of denim devotees keep their favourite pair of jeans as it makes them feel more confident, and more than a third say they either look great or feel cosy in jeans. 

However, a worrying factor from the survey revealed that BOTH men and women admitted they rather lose their wedding ring than their favourite bit of clobber. 

And 90 percent confessed that they would be gutted if they lost their cherished items, while ten per cent said they rather lose their… mother-in-law!

The survey, which was conducted by Colour Catcher, furthermore revealed that many of us keep clothes we don't wear in the hope they will either come back into fashion, fit us again or because they remind us of good times. 

So, would you swap your boyf for your favourite pair of blue jeans? 

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If you’re a bookworm, or your significant other tends to constantly have their nose in a book, then you may have just hit the relationship jackpot.

When it comes to picking their perfect partner those who love to read have an advantage. This is thanks to increased skills in empathy and ‘theory of mind’.

Gregory Currie is a professor of cognitive psychology at the University of Toronto. According to him those that invest their time in reading have a tendency to show greater levels of empathy.

They also possess a greater ‘theory of mind’. This is also known as the ability to hold opinions, beliefs and interests that don’t concern only themselves.

The habit of putting themselves in other people’s positions, which is developed through reading means readers are capable of using their levels of empathy to see things from other people’s perspective.

As well as making you a more considerate partner, it can also make you less likely to completely lose the run of yourself when that row over dirty dishes gets out of hand.

Another psychologist David Comer Kidd has added that:

"The ability to connect with characters they haven’t met makes their understanding of the people around them much easier."

So next time you’re being accused of ignoring them when you get lost in your favourite page-turner, perhaps you should maybe read some this info for them as a bedtime story.

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This is something that we may all be guilty of from time to time. However, we did not realise it had been given a catchy new term- our obsession with internet slang has struck again.

The times you check your phone when out in public, specifically if you’re on a date, is now known as “phubbing”. Yahoo Health are reporting the term as a mashup of the phrase ‘phone snubbing’.

It is apparently, the term used to describe the action of a person paying more attention to their phone than whoever is sitting opposite them.

Researchers have even found that when your significant other pulls other their smartphone, whether they are watching adorable dog videos of checking their email, feelings of relationship satisfaction decrease.

The study, published in the Computers in Human Behaviour journal, of 450 adults 36 per cent said that ‘phubbing’ has caused issues in their relationship.

Does any of this sound familiar?

Well, have no fear because there’s even a website to help you cope. StopPhubbing.com has some helpful steps you can follow to help you put the phone down and get back in the conversation.

They also have some useful statistics regarding ‘phubbing’, such as:

"If phubbing were a plague, it would decimate six Chinas.” Also, over the course of one dinner, a person will see 36 cases of phubbing. 

If you’re losing some faith in humanity then don’t panic entirely, the site is satire. It was created to highlight how ridiculous it is that people are even recognising ‘phubbing’ as a term.

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Not too long ago, The And project released a video that featured a couple getting brutally honest with each other about their break up.

It was emotional and we have only just finished drying our tears to be honest.

Well, now another real-life couple have taken the plunge and sat down for a conversation where they talked openly about their exes, jealousy and sexuality.

Lynette and Corey are engaged and have been together for four years. When they were asked to sit down and talk to each other about a range of topics while being entirely honest with each other.

It started with some laughs and was quite light-hearted when Lynette confirmed that yes- Corey was “obviously” the best sex she’s ever had:

“You’ve removed me from the dark side and I saw the light!”

However, then things got serious, very, very quickly.

Lynette is a practicing Christian and struggles with the thought of Corey becoming a “sex symbol” in the music industry.

That was tough enough to watch as it was, but then they started talking about their exes.It was brutal.

Corey was curious as to whether Lynette had ever been with another girl when they were in the middle for their ‘on-off’ phase. He wasn’t thrilled about her answer.

This hit us right in the feels.

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Have you ever dreamed about quitting your day job and escaping to a tropical island to live in peace in the sunshine?

It sounds like a pretty good idea when you’re stuck inside while the rain is beating down outside the window.

Well, one couple decided to go ahead and make their dream a reality.

Not only did Tara and Sasha escape their office jobs for paradise, they also included pizza. The two quite their jobs and opened a pizza shop, on a boat, in St. Thomas.

While we thought that food trucks were one of the coolest things to happen to our beloved lunch breaks, we can’t say we ever imagined pizza boats before. 38-year old Sasha was a programmer in New York, but when he left that job to work on a yacht, he met Tara.

They fell in love, and shared a love of pizza and boats.

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So the next step was obviously to fit out their boat with a commercial-grade pizza kitchen. West of Puerto Rico and right around St. James Bay, Pizza Pi travel around the end of St. Thomas serving customers on the water.

They do close for hurricane season, their website informs us they will reopen in November 2015.

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Pizza Pi is rated one of the top restaurants in the area on TripAdvisor.

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If that sounds appealing, then good news: they are hiring.

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Sasha and Tara are currently looking for a business manager and a food prep staff member among other positions.

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You may not want to admit it, but at some point in you relationship things are going to move from steamy and exciting to stay in and chill. So, when it comes to thinking about how compatible you and your new significant other are, people are taking their Netflix que and DVD collection into account more than ever. 

The thousands of internet memes that propose we should look into using our Netflix accounts as an online match making service are finally becoming a reality. Netfling is hyping itself up as the best way to "find your perfect couch companion."

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Working much like Tinder, just without having to use a Facebook account to sort through your possible matches. Netfling would rely on your Netflix information to find people who watch the same TV series and films you do. 

So there will actually be a real-life verson of 'here's 25 other singles who just watched seven series of Grey's Anatomy'. 

The people at Netfling are making the claim that: “The secret to a happy relationship isn’t communication…it’s having the same Netflix taste.” 

Considering there has been a dating app that bases your possible love interests on their pet ownership status, among many more bizarre dating services, we are considering Netfling might be a success. Look, winter is a long season with shorter days and chilly, wet weather. It is a time when we will shamelessly indulge in lazy evenings on the couch, so why not make the most of it?

The argument can also be made that people's taste in TV will tell you a lot about them, but also maybe too much. Do we really want potential suitors to know just how much time we spend watching Say Yes To The Dress? Hmmm.

At the very least though, you will know that you have at least two common interests: TV and online dating. Recipe for success, yes?

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Brian is currently doing the rounds with media ahead of the release of his new single Call On Me Brother.

The 35-year old, who recently split from wife Vogue, has said that he has no regrets about the failure of both of his marriages. The 35-year old pointed out that happines is what he belives is the most important thing for people. He said that:

"If people break up, they break up and it's not as big a deal as people make it out to be."

Having lived in the US Brian believes that their approach to marriage is more realistic than the Irish approach:

."I have lived in America, in LA and New York and this is normal. People get married all the time.

“Irish people are so used to meeting someone, getting married, having kids and then spending the next 40 years hating each other but living under the same roof."

Brian said that we don't live in that world anymore and people "have just got to be happy."

He and Vogue announced their break up in July and since then have been the subject of must discussion regarding how they still appear to be quite close. The Mirror writes that Brian has pointed out that he doesn't think that breaking up with someone means you never speak to them again.

“It doesn’t always have to be some big World War where people start fighting and hating each other. Everyone should just live their own lives by their own rules," the father of two added. 

He also commented that he doesn't think he will be getting married again any time soon, pointing out he's still technically married now so he doesn't see a third trip down the aisle in his future. His marriage to Kerry Katona in 2002 also ended in a break up four years later.

The singer is currently revamping his solo career with his latest single which notes is:

“It’s about the lads because I think boys always struggle to tell each other about emotions or feelings or anything like that.

“They are all a bit too cool so I wanted to write a song saying ‘You’ve always been there for me so if you ever need anything I’ll be there for you."

Brian will be playing his first Dublin gig in a decade this November in Whelans and his new album is set to be released early next year. 

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Two years ago Ali and Andrew broke up after being together for seven years.

A project called The And has reunited them to allow them to ask questions to which they wanted the most honest answers possible.

Things then got very real, and incredibly emotional very quickly.

Andrew insisted that he never slept with anyone else while he and Ali were together, but their question and answer session turned some painful insights for Ali.

She did admit that he wasn’t solely to blame for their problems, but that doesn’t make anything hurt any less, for either of them it seems.

While there were many tears shed (ours not included) they pair were able to share some happier memories. They both even admitted to wanting to get married at some point or another while they were together.

If you think you can handle more of the feels, then you can watch part two of their story here. Or if you’re a real sucker for punishment, you can see how more couple reacted in the same situation here.

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It should all be relatively simple: you're definitely a catch of sorts – reasonably good-looking, with a 2:1 degree in your back-pocket and a dry sense of humour that you're particularly proud of.

OK; you're not everyone's cup of tea (no one can please everyone) but you've plenty of great friends and your major flaws are relatively limited (a-jar-of-Nutella-in-one-sitting habit aside). 

So why are you still single? Why are so many guys out there a serious let-down?

It's not that you're DYING to do the whole wedding and babies and mortgage thing any time soon. And granted, your mam heralding the arrival of your 26th birthday with cries of 'I'll never have any grandkids,' was embarrassingly OTT.

But somewhere at the back of your mind you know it's probably a good idea to start keeping an eye out for your lucky chosen one (lest Zac Efron not be available for marriage circa 2023).

Now US author Jon Birger has released a no-nonsense, full breakdown of why you're single: Date-onomics: How Dating Became A Lopsided Numbers Game.

He says he was compelled to research and write the book after noticing his single gal pals were always complaining that “guys were ignoring them or were toying with them”.

New York resident Jon is a financial writer for the likes of Fortune and TIME. He crunched demographic, census and other data to show that you're not just imagining it: it really is historically rough out there for the ladies.

In conclusion, and after much investigation, Mr Birger reckons there are eight reasons why women can’t find a man.

The book is definitely directed more specifically at an American readership, AND while we're don't necessarily agree with everything he says, here at SHEmazing! we also reckon there's a lot us Irish gals can learn from Jon's observations…

 So, without further ado, here's why you're single…

 

1) You live in Dublin

The divorce rate is higher than anywhere else; you’re more likely to be single in your 30s, AND there are just more women knocking around. In fact, in all urban areas in Ireland, men are outnumbered – meaning you want to consider a day-trip to the countryside (if not an actual change of address) to meet that special guy.

 

2) You do the wrong college course

When it comes to education, females trump the boys pretty much every time: last year girls did better in 50 out of 59 Leaving Cert papers.

That means our third-level colleges and universities are disproportionately full of women – by a ratio of 57:43, in fact.

“Facebook did a study a few years ago on how couples met, and it turned out that 25 percent met their significant others in college or grad school,” Mr Birger says.

So, you want to increase your chances of finding The One? Opt for courses such as computer science, engineering and agriculture – which are still male-dominated.

 

3) The men are playing you

As reported by numerous publications, Jon highlights that dating is out with younger people and hookup culture is in. He also reckons that with the gender imbalance on college campuses, men are “having a field day”.

And so he issues a warning: the longer a girl settles for casual sex as opposed to a long-term relationship, the more chance she has of ending up alone.

 

4) You’re not issuing an ultimatum

“Ultimatums work in business and politics,” Mr Birger reckons. “This notion that the only area of life you shouldn’t issue an ultimatum in is romance doesn’t make sense.”

Indeed, researcher John Molloy interviewed 3,000 couples right after they got married and found that 60 percent of the women were prepared to walk away if their guy suddenly declared he wasn’t ready.

 

5) You’re not making the first move

Go-get-em women are the ones more likely to get the guy. Mr Birger cites a premarital counsellor who told him that “of the nine couples he had in counselling, seven of them shared a similar story: the guys all had several options, but they married the women who pursued them the most”.

And ladies, don’t worry about turning off guys by being too pushy. “It’s a myth that men enjoy the chase,” the author adds.

 

6) You’re working in the wrong job

Slaving away in PR, education, nursing, event planning or other female-dominant fields? Time to get a new job!

That’s because around one in ten of us meet our spouse at work.

Some careers to consider instead: mechanical engineering, IT, and financial advising.

 

7) You’re too religious

“People who leave organised religion are disproportionately male,” Mr Birger reckons. “Atheists and agnostics are also disproportionately male.”

 

8) You’re too picky

“For the women who wait [to settle down], the dating pool gets much, much worse,” Jon warns.

He likens it to a game of musical chairs. In the first round, fresh into the dating market, nearly every woman gets a chair. By the final round, the chances of losing soar to 50 percent.

The author actually says if we were all more “open-minded about who we dated,” it would be less of an issue, but these days “both men and women have become more rigid about dating across socioeconomic boundaries”.

So to find a mate, women with a Masters degree should consider dating someone from a working-class background with limited formal education.

 

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