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One young couple are taking the term ‘sparks were flying’ to a whole new level.

Lexie Varga and Dylan Corliss were walking down the road when they were caught in one of the severe thunderstorms that passed through the California area last week.

It wasn’t until a passer-by stopped the duo to tell them what had happened that they realised they had actually been hit by lightning.

The two suffered from only minor injuries after the freak accident. Speaking to KCAL, Dylan explained what happened during the strike:

“It was more of just kind of shove, you know, and it felt kind of like I was getting hit over the head with metal or something.”

Lexie said she thought that the force they felt was due to an earthquake, rather than the one in a million chance of being struck by lightning. She didn't seem to be all that concerned after the incident, even telling her mom they wouldn't need to see a doctor as they both felt fine.

Dr. Stefan Reynoso who treated the pair after the incident occurred said it was because the two were holding hands that they didn’t suffer more serious injuries.

“These two were lucky that they were holding hands. It helped to diffuse the electrical current that ran through their bodies.”

 The couple are now joking that they have an “electric love”.

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In this day and age it is very rare to come across at least one person who hasn’t given online dating a go by now.

Tinder very nearly revolutionised the relationship game. There may well have been some love stories with origins beginning with a right swipe and a risky direct message, but for every romance there’s probably about ten absolute fails when it comes to online dating.

Sometimes the struggle just gets a little bit too much, but its ok, you’re not alone in this bizarre virtual love fest. We considered ten of the times when the online dating struggle.

The fear of judgement is real, but totally unnecessary.

Then you have to navigate the weird profiles.

When someone tries to slide into your direct messages like a boss and you’re just not feeling it.

 

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For example, this opening line:

There’s the times you think things are going relatively fine. Then all of a sudden BOOM! X-rated snaps everywhere.

 

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Trying to ignore or block these kind of events can take more time and energy than you thought.

You try to take a break, then ease yourself back in, which is harder than you think.

Nothing has really changed though.

Unless you find a seemingly normal person and can’t believe your luck.

So you resort to finding out EVERYTHING about them before you meet them in real life.

 

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Put down those oysters because they are not helping your cause, sorry everybody.

A study recently published by the International Society for Sexual Medicine has analysed what are most commonly thought of as popular aphrodisiacs. What they found out has got some people second-guessing everything they thought they knew about matters of libido.

Most of what people believe are actual aphrodisiacs in fact don’t do much except for make you believe you are supposed to be acting sexy.

The Food and Drug Administration in the US has defined an aphrodisiac product as “any product that bears labelling claims that it will arouse or increase sexual desire, or that it will improve sexual performance”.

As of now, there aren’t any products which have been approved to treat female sexual dysfunction, which is why many people have been seeking solutions from natural products.

The issue now is that likely don’t actually work the way people think they do.

Time magazine rounded up some of the things which fall into the urban legend category with their non-existent libido boosting.

Chocolate, honey and oysters have all been busted. Researchers are saying that there has been no trials that can confirm these food items have any effect on sexual function or desire.

However, all hope it not lost, ginger looks like it could be a winner.

The specific Korean red ginseng herb apparently has “been shown to improve sexual arousal in menopausal women”.

Well now, there’s some information for you to consider next time you're planning a night in…

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We're not mind-readers – and while men often complain that women's subtle (or not so subtle) hints, clues, and suggestions are all too often lost on them, the ladies can be equally clueless at times.

Fear not! The relationship experts at SHEmazing! have rounded-up the top five things that us gals can be liable to do in a relationship.

Here, we explore why none of them are good for his sanity, not to mention yours…

1) Fretting about your figure:

No one likes feeling less than his or her best: and putting on the odd excess pound here or there can dent your confidence, granted. However, firstly, he probably doesn’t notice, and secondly, even if he does, he definitely doesn’t really care.

What he does care about? You hampering on about so-called bulges, or focusing on apparent inadequacies.

Because a girlfriend who refuses to go out for dinner (lest you dive head first into a bread basket), or refuses to accept his compliments about how good you look is NO fun. So relax, gurl! Enjoy your relationship and focus on being healthy and happy rather than skinny and miserable (not to mention, probably single).

2) Dwelling on the past:

Unless you’ve been together since your teenage years, he’ll probably have a romantic past (so will you). And while spot of ex-girlfriend online investigation is to be expected – full-on cyber stalking is not. Don’t go digging, don’t interrogate mutual friends, and for goodness sake don’t message her.

People are different in different relationships; a guy can grow up A LOT between the ages of 21 and 24, and the right girl can bring out the best in anyone.

So he had a same-sex fling in the past, he cheated on someone, or it took him a while to realise you’re The One. So what! So long as you’re happy together right now, look to the future, not the past.

3) Sweating the small things:

You chip a nail; lose a load of eyelashes; miss a bit while applying tan; or mess up your liquid eyeliner application. It’s all rather annoying, sure, but save your ‘my life is over,’ rant for your girlfriends – because he doesn’t care and he certainly doesn’t get it. Besides, confident women are sexy women.

Heaps of self-assurance just doesn’t come naturally, you say? Fake it until you make it, we say. Hold your head high and tell yourself you’re great (because you are).

4) Getting distracted by everyone else:

Some folk move in together after only a few months – others wait years and years before taking the plunge. Neither is ‘right’; neither is ‘wrong’. Move at your own pace; scrap the checklist.

Just because your friend is pregnant and engaged at 26 doesn’t mean that you’re anywhere near that stage in your life.

That doesn’t mean, of course, you start comprising; that doesn’t mean you let him fob you off with excuse after excuse if you’re looking for more commitment.

However, it does mean that you pursue an amazing career if you want to, or you go travelling if that takes your fancy: because real love won’t just vanish because you decide to do a Masters abroad rather than putting a ring on it.

5) Not giving him space:

Him not wanting to see you doesn’t equal 'he’s about to break up with you' or 'he’s cheating'. Guys want to see their friends; they want to go to the gym and get an early night; they fancy just chilling at home with a book and the radio (much like ourselves, in fact).

Him being able to say that to you speaks far more highly of your relationship than him coming running every time you click your fingers. 

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We’ve all heard the stories of old-school friends who just don’t seem to get you anymore. It’s not that uncommon. Actually, it’s about as common as the daily panic many young women have trying to decide what is acceptable and what is not in their new workplace.

Growing up and becoming a fully-fledged adult is difficult. To try and ease the way for you just a touch, we put together a list of things that all twentysomething women really do not need to be worrying about.

Trying to live by a ‘5-year plan’

You really don’t need to have started a family, self-started a company and become president by the time you’re 27. Relax, no other time will you be able marathon New Girl all weekend guilt free.

Anything that has to do with sending texts

Was I too mean? Is that even funny? WHY HAS HE NOT TEXTED BACK? Wait, did I even text him back that time? Just stop. You have better more fun things to be doing.

Not having a party to go to every single Friday/Saturday

There ain’t no party like a pyjama party with take-away and a hair mask. Come on, you know that appeals to you more than you admit.

Trying to immediately have a 'young professional who is still on fleek' wardrobe

Unless you somehow managed to avoid a little thing called ‘rent’ and ‘entry-level’ salary, and no one does let’s be honest here, then you can calm down. Trust us, it takes a while to build up a stylish working wardrobe and no one is critiquing you.

Being alone forever

Would you rather waste the glory of your youth crying about a less than stellar significant other or would you rather be having the time of your life with new more fun guys and your squad?  

Spending way too much money on travelling

The trip to Oz may cost a fortune but it will probably be one of the most memorable experiences of your life, go for it before your career takes over and you lose all of that ‘me time’. 

Being 'skinny'

Are you happy? Excellent, that is the most important thing. Eat the pizza and stop caring what other people think.

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Well, this is as good an excuse for a trip to Ikea as we’ve ever heard.

A recent study has suggested that rocky furniture may be the reason for your rocky relationship.

According to the study, which was published in the journal Psychological Science, unstable furniture may affect your perception of your relationship.

The study asked 54 college students that were all in serious relationships to use chairs and tables that were either wobbly or secure. The participants were then asked questions about the level of satisfaction that they felt in their relationships.

Those who were using the shaky, unstable furniture perceived their relationships to be less secure than those who were using solid equipment.

Another two experiments were conducted that showed similar results. 174 people were asked relationship questions while standing on either one or two legs. Those standing on two legs were perceived to be more comfortable in their relationships while those on one leg suggested that theirs were rockier.

And finally, just to really give you a reason to go out and buy a super comfy couch, 129 college students were asked to sit at desks that were either secure or wobbly and… You’ve guessed it! Those in the desks that didn’t move around appeared to believe they were in more stable relationships than those who weren’t.

So, if you’re trying to snuggle up on the couch for your date night but your other half is driving you absolutely nuts, take a breath and trying jamming some cardboard under the leg of the couch and you never know – all of a sudden they may stop being so annoying! 

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We’ve been aware for a while now that the best relationships generally seem to blossom from actual friendships. Now we have actual scientific proof to back up the theory.

A new study from the University of Texas is telling us that if you and your partner were friends before taking the relationship leap, you’re more likely to overlook any slacking in the physical attractiveness department.

Good news for those permanently stuck in the friend zone?

Lead researcher Lucy Hunt says that having more time to “get acquainted” might just “make that person appealing in ways that outshine more easily observable characteristics such as physical attractiveness.”

The study was all about the physical attraction of love at first sight, a hotly contested topic in the research world, FYI.

Lucy and her colleagues gathered data from 167 couples, 100 married couple and 67 who were dating. The couples had been together for as few as three months to as long as 53 years, with an average relationship length of eight years and eight months.

What Lucy was interested in was how much time affects how attractive the partners were to each other.

The answer was simple; showing that “having the time to interact with others in diverse settings affords more opportunities to form unique impressions that go beyond one’s initial snap judgments.”

Basically, that super-hot guy in the club may be less than appealing two days later when you’re trying to hold a conversation over dinner.

But your friend Greg, who knows your Netflix guilty-pleasures and was there when your pet fish met his untimely end might be starting to look pretty cute after three years of friendship.

We kind of knew this already, no? Personality generally plays just as big a role as physical attractiveness in romantic relationships, yes?

It is good to know that science is actually backing us up on this though. Who knows, maybe you’ll start looking at some of your guy friends in a different light. 

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Us women can be pretty hard to read sometimes, but sometimes we find men equally hard to get our heads around. Especially Irish men, who seem to be in competition with one another over who can talk about their feelings the least.

Are you sad? Are you happy? Are you just enjoying watching Game of Thrones and want us to PLEASE be quiet? Sometimes we just can't tell.

Here are just a few of the many, many things we'll never grasp about the workings of the Irish male mind…

1. Their refusal to ask for directions
You're stuck on some random road in the midlands with no map and no phone battery, and yet you CAN'T ask that passerby where in God's name you are? Right so.

 

2. Their insistence on fixing everything
Including your iPhone. Sure it only fell down the loo, it'll be graaaand.

 

3. Their ability to instantly forget important details
Including the name of their best friend's new girlfriend, who they've been introduced to twice in the last week.

 

4. Their love of farting… and burping… and farting some more
Fart all you want but don't you dare waft it in our direction (again)

 

5. The bizarre nicknames they call all their friends by
"Oh, well we call him Splodge because he was a bit fat when he was a kid, but his name's actually Fionn."

 

6. The way they turn into kids as soon as they get a hint of an illness
"Can you just bring my dinner to me? I'm sneezing too much to walk."

 

7. But, conversely, their refusal to go to the doctor when they really ARE sick
"Ah, I have two eyes, I don't need to see out of both of them."

 

8. The fact that they know every All Ireland Senior Football winner dating back to 1985 but can't remember what day the bins go out
FYI, it's Tuesday.

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Falling in love can be a downright terrifying experience.

For a lot of people, when they think about falling in love they think it’s all rainbows and roses and bla bla bla.

The truth? It can be a nerve-racking experience that generally involves an embarrassing amount of time spent staring at your phone.

But of course, there are the wonderful moments too. Starting a new relationship with the right person will make all the fretting and panicking that you initially felt worth it.

So, if you think you may be falling madly in love, here are a few of the signs that will show it’s happening to you.

They are on your mind ALL of the time

And we do mean all.

You are always thinking about texting them

“Well, he texted me yesterday, and then I replied an hour ago, then he replied 37 minutes ago, so I need to wait another 45……”

You go on high alert when your phone rings

Every beep from your phone makes you feel like you’ve missed a step…and then it's usually our moms. 

You come up with some VERY creative reasons to talk to them

They unfortunately are probably not as subtle as you may think.

You are already planning the wedding

Only had a first date? No problem, we hear wedding bells too.

You dress up every time you meet them

No need to worry. When you are comfortably in love this will TOTALLY stop.

Their interests become your interests

One minute you’ve never seen a football match and next thing you can name every player in the Premier League. 

 

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Yup… it's official. Actually, it's better than that – it's science.

Yes, it turns out that the key to a long, happy marriage is telling your partner when they are annoying you.

So now you have an excuse to let them know: it’s for the sake of your relationship!

Dr Hannah Fry, author of Mathematics Of Love, explains how mathematical research into marriage found that those who voice their annoyance with the other and have it out with an argument are less likely to divorce.

"The couples who end up doing best have a really low negativity threshold. When things bother them they speak up immediately and don’t let small things spill out of control,” she said.

"I would have thought that a really high threshold of negativity, where you let things go on and let your partner 'be themselves' would be more successful. But the exact opposite is true," Dr Fry explained.

So basically, you shouldn’t be afraid of an argument if something is getting on your nerves (like we need the encouragement). However, there are some things you should definitely steer clear of saying to your other-half and here they are…

 

1. My ex used to do that too!

Any ex talk at all should be strictly off limits. Like seriously, unless you want to give him the green light to bring up his old flame too (no, thanks), simply don’t make it a topic of conversation.

2. How many people have you slept with?

Queue the jealousy. Sometimes ignorance really is bliss. And there is NEVER a right answer to this question anyway. 

3. Is she better looking/smarter/skinnier/more athletic/funnier than me?

Trust us, you’re just asking for trouble with this one. There is no right answer – and no way the guys can weasel their way out of it without digging a gigantic hole that will leave everyone in tears.

4. Does this dress look OK?

He doesn't really care. Sure, he also thinks you look great in a bin-liner – but he also wants to get out the door sometime before 10.30pm. Asking "is this dress OK?" is like asking: "Would you like to leave in five minutes or in another hour-and-a-half?"

Alternatively, he could utter something like: “Umm, do ya have somethin’ else you could wear?”

Firstly, obviously I don’t have anything else, I have NO clothes, remember? Secondly, excuse me while I go upstairs and bawl my eyes out.

5. Can we watch the Kardashians?

Especially not before bed; instant mood-killer. Don’t expect to get any action if he has to sit through an hour of Kim taking selfies and Kris having several large glasses of wine. This is literally to men what watching a group of lads play FIFA is to us.

6. What’s THAT supposed to mean?

When men say something, they usually mean it. Unlike our highly-coded statements, such as: “Yea, I’m grand”, or alternatively: “No, I don’t mind” – both of which usually mean the exact opposite of what we are trying to say.

So if he says he doesn’t want to get busy because he’s too tired, that’s probably because he is. Not because he saw some girl in Tesco that’s WAY better looking than you and that he’s probably going to end up getting with and then marrying and having nine children and yes, they'll be perfect. 

Duly noted.

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Nicole Scherzinger has spoken out about her break up with on/off boyfriend of seven years, Lewis Hamilton.

The former X Factor judge opened up just days after Hamilton has been linked to both Kendall Jenner and Gigi Hadid.

In an exclusive interview with People, Nicole explained about how people can become complacent in relationships:

“Sometimes people stay in relationships because they get complacent, because it’s comfortable for them, because they don’t want to be alone.”

The former Pussycat Doll gave advice to other newly singles saying it is important to “focus on yourself”.

“If relationships or people in your lives are meant to be, then they will come back around, but that shouldn’t be what’s holding you back.”

Meanwhile, ex-Lewis has been getting cosy with the Kendall-Gigi clan. Swarms of pics of the group surfaced from the Grand Prix in Monaco last week.

 

We love you @lewishamilton. Everyone knows you da champ. #TEAMLH

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Reports suggested that the Formula 1 star and Gigi were getting close at the racetrack but now an insider has told the Mail Online that Kris Jenner has given the 30 year old the okay to date her daughter.

As we reported earlier this week, there may be trouble in paradise for Kendall and Gigi. Is a feud over Lewis Hamilton brewing too? 

 

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It more-or-less confirmed what a lot of us gals suspected all along – it’s tough to sync up your libido with your man's: he’s gagging for it when you’re wrecked, and when you’re in the mood, he’s distracted by something else.

Now a Lovehoney survey has confirmed that while the average woman likes action between the sheets at 11.21pm, men are more likely to be turned on at 7.54am.

The same research found that a third of both men and woman have dated someone whose sex drive was not compatible with their own.

But with 36 percent of women also confessing that their 'up for it' radar is affected by their mood, we reckon that the men of Ireland would welcome some friendly bedroom advice and top tips…

Take it easy on the Fifty Shades stuff:

We love a bit of Jamie Dornan, sure, but full-on dirty talk? Maybe not. And as for getting physical – there’s a big difference between being playful and going in for a full on, uninvited smack on the bum. Unless we’ve chatted about it in advance, it’s best to avoid Red Room Of Pain-style activities entirely.

Take off your socks:

Hey – we get it. You’re consumed by passion when you see us. But in the midst of your desire, take the time to take off your socks. Granted, there isn’t really a sexy, strip-tease move for disrobing your feet, but disrobed they must be – without exception.

Clean yourself up for post-roll-in-the-hay snuggling:

Snuggling up post-session to a sweaty, smelly gorilla is no one's idea of fun. No assumptions here, but if you feel you’re less than spring-fresh, nip off to the bathroom for teeth-cleaning, nose-blowing, and deodorant-spraying. And frankly, it gives us a chance to “get ourselves together” too.

Keep in mind we’re not always body-confident:

We know you think we’re a goddess; but we ourselves sometimes feel less than our best. Lights blazing, blankets off, everything in full, unobstructed view is all well and good, but do try and judge the mood: if the lights are off, maybe they’re off for a reason.

Acknowledge it when we make the effort:

We’re spray-tanned, pedicured and (largely) hair-free – not only that, we’ve gone out and bought new underwear (it may be Penney’s; but it’s still lovely). If we’re making an extra special effort to mark an anniversary, birthday or milestone event, a kind word of thanks goes a long way… because a matching bra and pants deserves recognition.

Courtship isn’t dead yet:

We may be together for a couple of years, and sure things have gotten more, ahem, comfortable in that time, but the odd card, bunch of daffodils, or M&S dine-in meal goes a long way. Because sometimes dynamite in the bedroom starts in unlikely places – like in recycling being taken out before we have to ask.

And a few friendly words of wisdom for all involved parties…

  • Don’t check your phone mid-session. Ever.
  • Make sure you say the right name – that includes avoiding any mention of Ryan Gosling or Beyonce.
  • Don’t compare your current squeeze to your ex (this happens).
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