Why you should laugh off embarrassing sex moments!

Relationships

Nov 17, 2014

If you've managed to enjoy a cringe-free sex life, then spare a moment for the rest of us mere mortals who often have to suffer through embarrassing noises, awkward mishaps and unpleasant sensations in a bid to reach The Big O.

If any of the above cringers sound familiar, congratulations! You have a normal sex life.

Let's face it, it's not like the movies and it's never going to be, so that's why laughing off all those sexy time bloopers is VITAL if you want to actually enjoy the no-pants-dance with your other half.

Sounds
We don't need to go into specifics here. We all know what we're talking about when we say sex can be rife with noises more akin to a whoopie cushion convention than a romantic boudoir, but what can you do? These noises are unavoidable and if neither you nor your partner can handle hearing them, then best just abstain from sex from now on! Nah, we didn't think so.

Laugh it off (really loudly, incase there's any more on the way), make a joke and remind yourself that those sounds pale in comparison to the more joyful noises you're both making!

Logistics
Every single time you're about to get down to it, your boyfriend acts like he's never encountered a bra clasp. He wrestles with it, scratching your back in the process while you sigh and slowly feel the mood go off you.

Yes, it's frustrating, but either laugh and help the poor guy out or focus your attention elsewhere while he gets to grip with the rubik's cube he's certain is attached to your bra clasp. Getting irritated will only put an end to proceedings and is it really worth missing out?

Female issues
We've all been there. Your period makes a surprise appearance and all of a sudden the passion is dulled by bodily functions, gasps of horror and flashbacks of that infamous PE class in second year. White shorts, thanks coach.

No matter how close you and your partner are, you can still feel embarrassed and juvenile when something like that happens, but look, it all comes as part of the package and if you don't make a big deal of it, then chances are neither will he. If your boyfriend can't handle womanly issues, then maybe he's in the wrong type of relationship!

At the end of the day girls, you're naked, sweaty and gasping to begin with, so really, what else can happen that's more embarrassing or can't be laughed off?

Use the most awkward of moments as a bonding tool or a future in-joke, you'd be surprised how much more relaxing and enjoyable sex can be when you stop sweating the small stuff.

One in six women would swap sex for cake

Oct 7, 2014

by Amber Saunders

In a highly dubious study conducted by Mr Kipling for National Cake Week, it was found that 16% of women (and 9% of men) would pick a slice of their favourite cake over ever having sex again.

These people either have really bad sex lives or an incredible recipe for cake.

The same study found that a quarter of people would give up wine, Facebook or Twitter for a slice of cake, and 13% would abandon their phone or their favourite TV show.

Mr Kipling also found that people use cake for nefarious purposes. One in eight of us have brought cake into the office just to get on the boss’ good side, and 11% of men have tried to win a girl's heart with cake.

If you did that survey about chocolate, it would go up to 100%.

A spokesperson for Mr Kipling said that “cake is one of the things the nation simply cannot live without, even if it’s just a little treat every now and then.”

Well they obviously have no ulterior motive in finding that cake is more important than life, so lets just take this study at face value.

Between the sheets: the best times of the day to have sex!

Sep 23, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Did you know that having sex at certain times of the day could benefit your wellbeing as well as your sex life? We’re not suggesting you draw up a timetable or anything (unless you really want to) but it’s certainly worth keeping these tips in mind!

Here’s our list of the best times to get steamy with your partner… take note!

1. After a heavy gym session
Blood flow around our body increases during exercise, making CERTAIN parts of the body more sensitive… so expect a killer orgasm during post-workout sex. Exercise also boosts our levels of testosterone – the sex hormone – meaning you’ll be overcome with desire. Sounds like a win-win situation!

2. In the mornings
Okay, it might mean setting the alarm clock for a little earlier (or missing the bus), but morning sex is totally worth it! Your energy is higher when you wake up, meaning you’ll both be on top form. All those endorphins mean you’ll be in a great mood for the rest of the day too.

3. After a stressful day
Affection of any kind, even a hug, can really improve your mood. That, combined with the increase in oxytocin after sex, will leave you feeling happy and relaxed. Great sex is also the perfect way to relieve tension, so get to it!

4. When you’re feeling run down
We agree that you’re hardly feeling at your sexual peak when you’re harbouring a cold, but research shows that sex can be a great immune booster. Worth a try, and it’s way more fun than taking Vitamin C supplements…

5. When you’ve got the jitters
If you’re feeling nervous before a big meeting in work or a stressful college exam, get rid of those butterflies with some great sex. Having fun in the bedroom can calm nerves and reduce stress levels so you’ll be good to go.

6. In the middle of your menstrual cycle
On day 14 of your cycle (around a week after your period ends), your clitoris becomes engorged more easily. In layman’s terms, you’re more likely to have an amazing orgasm. Sounds good to us!

7. After an argument
Ah, the classic: make-up sex. The main reason we’re more likely to have mind-blowing sex after an argument is “arousal transfer.” When our brain is stimulated by one thing (arguing), it’s more easily stimulated by something else afterwards. Well, whatever the science behind it, it definitely works!

8 essentials for better sex

Relationships

Sep 10, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Whether you’re looking to spice up your relationship or just make things a bit more interesting, here are the sex essentials! (After another person, obviously).

1. The Karma Sutra

Get that old time book out and get ready to work it.

2. Sexy Soundtrack

A soundtrack to your sexy night is essential. Otherwise, you may get the giggle when that diarrhoea ad comes on TV.

3. Porn

Not for everyone, but if you’re not into visualisation, why not try reading a sexy novel?

4. Lube

It’s slippery and fun, what’s not to love?!

5. Lingerie

It’s not easy being a girl – until it comes to sex, that is – and all we have to do is throw on some sexy lingerie to capture your attention. Lace? Great. Red? Fantastic. Suspenders? Oh stop…

6. Candles/A Dim Lamp

In essentially every single sex scene to ever make it onto film, there are no bright, unflattering lights under which your cellulite will be shining bright or your face glowing puce. No, instead you have candles, dim lights and a red orange glow.Take a little inspiration and dim your lights tonight, because there’s nothing sexy about observing your partners skin condition under the glow of what could also be mistaken for a surgery lamp.

7. Sex Toys

Never fear, we’re not in any shape or form suggesting that you’re bad at sex. We’d never say such a thing, in fact. However, take some good sex, add a vibrator or some other form of battery operated plaything to the mix and you have yourself a recipe for success. It’s going to do nothing but benefit you both, keep you both excited, plus add some new sensations and areas of interest into the mix. Winning. If you don’t know where to look for and don’t want to go to a local shop then check Eden Fantasys. They have all kinds of sex toy and essentials you need to make your sex life better. Don’t forget to use Eden Fantasys coupon codes to save some money on your purchase. Check it out and thank me later.

8. Contraception

Sorry to end this whole thing on a massive downer, but safe sex is better sex. Nobody wants to come away from sex with anything other than a smile on their face. Unless you’re in a loving committed relationship and you’re trying for a baby, then by all means, get to it!

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The 5 worst types of sex you’ll have in life

Relationships

Aug 26, 2014

by Amber Saunders

So previously we looked at the best types of sex you will have in your lifetime.

Unfortunately, it won't all be amazing, whether you have one partner or many in your life, bad sex will be encountered.

1. Drunk Sex

You think it was great at the time until you wake up, unsatisfied and with a note slipped under the door asking you to quietly shut the f*** up.

2. First Time Sex

No, we don't mean first time sex with your new beau, we mean first time sex ever. Nightmare.

3. Quiet, Awkward Sex

In films there’s loud breathing, panting, Barry White and a thunder storm. In your bed there’s the sound of squeaking flesh and a silence so dense you could swim through it. You’re actually pretty sure that you can hear your next door neighbour's cat killing its next prey. There goes a fire alarm in the next street. Oh and their knee just clicked. It’s actually so damn awkward that you’re secretly kind of hoping someone's phone rings, if only to break the silence.

4. Sex With No Benefits

All give and no receive makes us unhappy women. Not to mention frustrated.

5. Sympathy Sex

Of course none of us have ever slept with someone purely out of sympathy. Of course not, that’d be a totally terrible reason for sleeping with someone, after all. Whether they had a bad day in work, discovered that they had insufficient funds or failed to get into their favourite jeans, sometimes the only way to ensure that they’re feeling better, is to have sex with them. It's a sacrifice, like a white lie of sorts. "Of course I want to shimmy in my sexy underwear instead of getting into my dressing gown and watching True Detective while eating Frosties from the box."

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S! TV BREAKING: Ex confesses Girls Aloud member is ‘sex mad’

Aug 25, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Some exes just can’t keep their mouths shut, even 8 years later. A Girls Aloud member has had her bedroom secrets splashed across the tabloids due to one not so keep-it-to-yourself ex boyfriend. Tut-tut! We just wonder why he chose now to dish the dirt! Find out what he’s been saying here as Niamh Geaney reports.

The 5 best types of sex you’ll have in life

Relationships

Aug 21, 2014

by Amber Saunders

Sex is great – we all love it! But there are some types of sex that are just better than others. Here's the most memorable sex you will have in your life:

1. First Time Sex
We don’t mean the time that you lost your virginity, because we all know that was awful sex. But after you’ve taught yourself a few moves and finally feel confident that you know what you’re doing under the sheets, first time sex with your new partner feels incredible. It can be awkward and nervous at first, but once you find your rhythm everything falls into place. Sparks fly, birds are singing outside your bedroom window.

2. Make-up Sex
Make-up sex is up there with the best of them. There’s no better way to close an argument with your boyfriend than by getting up close and personal. You’re still angry and hate your partner a little bit because you’re still mad about whatever it was you were arguing about, and all this added ferocity boils into a beautiful concoction of unbelievable make-up sex. If you feel like you’re stuck in a rut and need to spice things up in the bedroom, start a silly argument for the sake of it, so you can jump into make-up sex later. Healthy.

3. Revenge Sex
Revenge sex is an awful and spiteful thing to do, but at the time you’re doing it, it does feel incredible. Because let’s face it, you’re doing it for a reason. You may be doing it to get back at someone who wronged you, and you may feel like an awful human being once that nut is busted, but when that Marvin Gaye music is ringing in your ears and you’re doing the no pants dance, that’s the last thing on your mind. Who ever said that revenge wasn’t sweet?

4. Marathon Sex
Okay, marathon sex is just the best. There’s no better way to explore your partner’s needs and figure out what they like best, then to go at it two, three, or even four times in a row. Practice makes perfect, and boy you’re getting a whole lot of practice!

5. Secret Sex
Secret sex is so, so satisfying because, like Monica and Chandler out of Friends, having to hide your sexual relationship makes it all the more fun and sexy. Whether it’s because you’re cheating (bold), hiding them from your disapproving parents or just sneaking around for the fun of it, secret sex is like Christmas to those dirty thrill seekers. Enjoy it while you can though, because you’ll always get caught in the end.

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S! TV BREAKING: JWoww becomes a born again virgin

Aug 20, 2014

by Amber Saunders

They say motherhood changes a person, but we didn't expect this!

Emma Power reports.

Friends With Benefits: expectation vs reality

Relationships

Aug 18, 2014

by Amber Saunders

There's a lot of pros and cons to having a friend with benefits – it works for some, doesn't work for most. Here are the expectations of having a friend with reality….and what you actually get.

1. No Strings Attached

The Expectation

Sex all the time whenever you feel like it.

The Reality

Hook ups occur randomly, usually after a drunken night out, nothing is ever clearly defined.

2. “We’re just friends”

The Expectation

This is a simple thing that doesn’t need to be defined *Shrugs*

The Reality

Having to constantly define your ‘friendship’ to all your friends. (the ones you don’t have sex with..)

3. ”I’m totally in control of this arrangement”

The Expectation

I can stay emotionally unattached to this person

The Reality

I am not a robot and am in danger of falling for this person. Crap.

4. User or the one being used?

The Expectation

I’m happy with this arrangement where I sleep with this person whenever I like.

The Reality

I'm getting a little jealous and I can't stop it.

4. Comfortable or too comfortable?

Expectation

It’s nice to feel totally at home with someone.

The Reality

This person just farted in front of me. This is not okay.

5. The fine line between being a friend with benefits and a booty call

Expectation

This is a balanced, equal arrangement.

Reality

They only ever call you late at night and when you try to arrange it they are always busy . “Holy crap, I’m a booty call”

6. How healthy is it to be a FWB?

The Expectation

I like this situation but have no idea how long it will continue for..

The Reality

Is this actually stopping me from moving to a better place in my life?

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Guess which fruit is great for your sex life!

Relationships

Aug 18, 2014

by Amber Saunders

If you thought all an apple a day did was keep the doctor away, think again. A study has revealed that they’re actually great for your sex life.

Italian researchers analysed 731 women, and separated them into two groups: Group A ate one or two apples a day, and Group B who ate no apples.

The women then filled out a Female Sexual Function Index, which asked them about sexual function, sexual frequency, orgasm, lubrication and overall sexual satisfaction. The results showed that the women who ate apples had higher FSFI scores, “thus increasing their lubrication and overall sexual function.”

Apparently the reasons apples are so good for improving our sex lives is because they contain polyphenols and antioxidants that can stimulate blood flow to the genitalia and vagina, which helps with arousal. They also contain phloridzin, a common phytoestrogen that is structurally similar to estradiol, an important hormone for vaginal lubrication and female sexuality.

Now, if we haven’t turned your stomach with the words ‘vaginal lubrication’, go eat your apples. And if you’re planning a REALLY steamy night, here are some other foods that can help get you feeling a bit frisky:

Strawberries
If you have mastered the whole ‘looking really sexy while eating strawberries dipped in cream’ thing – we salute you. However, that’s not the only reason they’re good for your sex life. They help increase circulation, which helps with arousal, and they’re also rich in vitamin C which has been linked to higher sperm counts in men.

Avocados
These fruits are high in vitamin E and vitamin B6 which promotes better blood flow. And as we said before, good blood flow is essential for good fun in the bedroom.

Almonds
Thought nuts were boring? Think again. Almonds contain selenium which is known to help with infertility issues. They also contain vitamin E and zinc, which is meant to boost libido.

Sweet Potatoes
Eat a couple of sweet potatoes for some sweet, sweet lovin’. They’re full of potassium which is meant to be good for erectile dysfunction.

Sesame Seeds
Sprinkle them onto your cereal or into a stir-fry to get a boost of zinc, which helps with testosterone production in men, so we’re going to assume it’s good for our sexual health too!

Does this video prove that European girls are more promiscuous?!

Aug 5, 2014

by Amber Saunders

A guy walked up to 200 American women and asked if they would have sex with him. Every one of them said no.

He then did the same thing in Europe, and while the majority said no, some didn’t think it was such a bad idea.

What does this little experiment reveal out European girls?! Watch the video to see for yourself!

S! TV BREAKING: Ryan Gosling cries after sex?!

Aug 5, 2014

by Amber Saunders

We all know Ryan Gosling has a sensitive side, and that's partially why we ladies love him so much! However, reports have emerged from Star Magazine in which a mystery blonde is claiming that the Hollywood heartthrob is a post-sex crier. What?! Watch the video above to find out exactly what she said.

Ciara O'Doherty reports,