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Body positivity has come on in leaps and bounds in recent times, with celebrities and social media influencers showing sides to their bodies that people didn't show in the past.

Personal trainer, fitness competitor and mental health advocate, Victoria D' Ariano, shows us that even the fittest, most well-trained bodies have so-called imperfections and that these imperfections are both perfect and beautiful.

 

CHEAT MEALS. Let's talk about my past relationship with these It was "cheat meal" day. I wouldn't touch any carbs and eat as little food before my workout so I could "save" my calories for the cheat. Sometimes I would workout extra hard because I knew I was getting a cheat other times the anxiousness I felt made me distracted. Once my workout was done, I expected others to be done and would be pacing around manically seeing if they were finished or if they could be done as I couldn't wait to go get food. If I had to wait, the anxiety would build up and lead to anger and frustration. The drive to the restaurant always felt uneasy, I couldn't sit still as I was so anxious to indulge, to allow myself to eat without judgment. Waiting for my food at the restaurant was a blur as my mind would be so fixated on the food coming I could barely engage in any conversations, and even if I did I wasn't really there. The wait would make me so anxious to the point my throat would start to tighten up, suddenly I would be trying clear it. The moment the food came, the lump in my throat was gone. I would spend the next few hours feeling free, eating anything I want, sometimes I would feel content with just a meal other times the "all or nothing" thinking would take over and I would eat everything. Once I was done my "scheduled weekly cheat" I started to over think. I started to worry about what I would look like the following day. The fear of gaining weight would sink in leaving me upset and stressed. The following day I would always weigh myself. The increase in the numbers on the scale would make me miserable and not a nice person to be around. I would be irritable and snappy at the ones I loved. I wouldn't eat any carbs that day. I would look at myself in the mirror and think about "how fat I looked" and quickly my mind would shift to what I could do to start losing weight. Some cheat meals got to the point where I would use a natural laxative, but I would always lie to myself and convince myself that it was "needed" because of my digestion issues. I've taken a step back and from here I can see how truly unhealthy my relationship with food had become. Continued

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In a series of posts, she shows her body in different ways and questions why her sitting a certain way is deemed more beautiful than she sitting in a less posed way that shows off her tummy and cellulite. 

She says "Bad posture and good posture. Why does one have to be beautiful and the other not? Through this new journey I am starting to learn what "fake" happiness is and what real happiness should feel like."

 

Bad posture and good posture. Why does one have to be beautiful and the other not? Through this new journey I am starting to learn what "fake" happiness is and what real should feel like. "Fake" happiness: -basing your self-worth on your body. -only being happy when your body looks a certain way. -basing you happiness on the validation from others. -doing anything to reach this "ideal body." -never being satisfied with the way you look but always chasing the next "goal physique." -valuing the opinion of others about yourself more than you value your own opinion of yourself -comparing to others and thinking if you look that way you'll be happy. -missing out on life to achieve this "perfect" physique. -settling for mediocracy and being "safe" verses taking a chance and following your heart and perhaps failing. -being "rich" even if you hate what you are doing. See all of these things? We think that achieving them will make us happy, and yes perhaps it will but eventually that happiness will fade because it's not real, it's just temporary happiness based on these superficial things. What I THINK real happiness is (and am working on): -basing your self-worth on who you are as person on the inside, regardless of what you look like. -basing happiness on the ability for YOU to love yourself, NOT through the validation of others. -Putting your Heath first, both mentally and physically over looking a certain way. -being able to be present and happy with the way you look right now and not feel the need to change it. Unless you genuinely want to, for YOU. -allowing yourself to change in order to grow to make you a better person NOT because you don't like who you are. -Making your opinion about yourself the most important thing regardless of what others have to say. -acknowledging you are YOU for a reason and not wanting to be someone else but instead the best possible version of yourself. -enjoying life and understanding that there is more to it all than just looking a certain way. -following your heart and going after your inner greatness even if it will threaten and upset people. -following your passion regardless of how much money you will make.continued

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She describes what she sees as 'fake' happiness; basing your happiness on how you look, caring more about what other people think of you than your own opinion of yourself and missing out on life in order to obtain your idea of a perfect physique, to name a few.

She says real happiness can be achieved when you put your health, both physical and mental, first and by only changing the way your body looks if you genuinely want to for you.

We're with ya, girl!

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It's easy for us to think that people in great physical shape have no reason to be insecure about their bodies, but as we know, this is not necessarily true.

We all have our insecurities, but whether or not we choose to admit that is a different story.

Victoria D'Ariano, a bodybuilder and mental health advocate, knows this struggle all too well.

There's no doubt that Victoria is in top physical condition, but just like everyone else, there are parts of her body she wishes she could change.

She has cellulite, or “butt dimples” as she likes to call it, and recently took to Instagram to pen a hilarious open letter to her biggest insecurity.

 

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“Dear Butt Dimple,

I remember the first day you appeared. I was 15 years old. Since then you have had a hugely negative impact on my life. Since then you have made me feel less about myself. You not only made me feel fat, but also unworthy. You have always had an impact on what I chose to wear. I would avoid certain bikinis, and even some of my favorite leggings. I would never feel confident in a bikini because I thought everyone was staring at you. I would never wear my favorite leggings because again I always thought people were starting at you. Long shirts were my go-to as it was a way I could cover you up and have a moment of peace within my mind as no one would be judging you.

I remember endless hours of looking at you in the mirror, squeezing you and wondering why I had you. I remember crying of embarrassment as other girls I was friends with didn’t have you. I would exercise extra hard in hopes you would go away. I would eat better also in hopes you would go away. I even considered cellulite treatments so you would finally just go away. You never did, you still haven’t. You took a lot of joy away from me, you caused a lot of stress for me, you made me insecure and took away my confidence. I could never feel in shape as you were always there.

I am writing you today to tell you I have finally stopped letting you win. You will no longer make me feel unworthy, not good enough or not in shape because of you. I will no longer be afraid to wear certain bathing suits or leggings because of you. I will no longer hide you. You are what you are and I have finally come to peace with that. I have finally accepted you.

When I reflect back on this I realize how stupid it is to have let something this superficial have an impact on my life but it did. I am happy that I have been able to overcome this and I hope if you have a similar struggle you can realize that you too can and will. Don’t let things of such insignificance ever take away your happiness.”

 

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The post has since gone viral with many of Victoria's 283,000 followers thanking her for her honesty.  

One user wrote: "Omg I have the same thing and I've hated it for years. I still hate it sooo thank you for posting this."

This isn't the first time Victoria has adressed the topic. Just last month the bodybuilder shared this photo with her followers:  

 

Dis my butt, dis also my butt. The difference? One is posed with a good angle and in good lighting, the other isn't posed and in different lighting. On the left you'd think I have smooth skin and no cellulite. The right you can see that I have some bumps and in fact do have cellulite. . I'm posting this because the other day someone messaged me and said they were having a bad body-image day. She was trying on bikinis and all she could see was cellulite and a muffin-top. Well let me make a few things clear. Almost everyone I know, myself included has some kind of cellulite… change room lighting makes EVERYTHING show on my butt… like the most cellulite. AND if I wear low-rise bikini bottoms I also have a muffin-top! Want to know what all of this makes me? And makes you? A WOMAN. That's is, that's all. Whatever idea you have for yourself and this "image" you think you need to look like. Throw that shit out. Own those curves, own that cellulite, embrace that beautiful and simply womanly body!

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Victoria is living proof that not matter how other people see us, our insecurities will continue to exist – we've just got to learn to embrace them. 

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